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writes: My bf and i had issues this school year. Major events took place. Now one of his friends who helped with the issues is moving here. He kept this info from me until recently when it was final. To make things worse the only reason he is moving here is because of my bf and his dad's company. My bf knew and still knows this is cause major problems but is allowing it to happen. I can't take anymore heated arguments. I am very annoyed my bf didn't tell me and now i told him to stop this whole issue of the friend moving here but he refuses. I've explain and explained but he keeps backing up the friend. I've been dating him for 21 months when this friend has only been around for 8 months. I can't deal with the friend and what comes with it this summer. WE had plans to fix up stuff but know it can't happen. I'm afraid because i know this will lead to more arguements and a possble break up. I don't know what to do to get through to my bf. Help please Reply to this Question
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (7 May 2006):
 You say that major events took place in the school year but are not overly specific, what are you scared of?
What do you think this friend will do if he does move nearby?
If your relationship is strong enough with your b/f then this should not be a problem.
I think that by you laying down the law to your b/f about the friend moving in, he is going to be set at no way am I getting told what to do.
Obviously it is extremely hard to judge the situation as there are huge gaps of knowing the facts.
I appreciate the fact that you are upset with your b/f but arguing and not compromising is just not going to resolve anything.
If things are not going to be resolved with your b/f then I think it is time to draw back from the situation and let the dust settle a little.
I wish I could advise you more but without any more facts I just can't help you and I wish I could.
If you want to talk more then that is fine and I will try and help as much as I can. I think the other aunts and uncles would do that as well but it is hard to comment when things are extremely patch on the info side of things.
You have posted your question anonymously and that is fine so no one needs to know who you are but if you want more help I think you need to open up a bit more.
For now, just take a deep breath and try to draw back from it all.
Things are not going to be resolved with your b/f as you are both digging your heals in over all of this.
Take support from any of your friends and family right now as they know you the best at the moment. If your b/f is not supporting you then get it from the people you trust.
I will wait to see if you want to chat anymore with either myself or anyone else.
BFN
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