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writes: My bf and i have had an on/off relationship for 7 months. After struggling with the relationship recently we broke it off because his flirting with everyone was driving me crazy. However, there's a chance we will get back together this week as we bumped into eachother and fooled around. The thing is, i'm going on holiday next tuesday for a week and if we start a relationship a day or two before i leave then i'm not sure i can trust him to stay faithful for the time i'm gone. Do i trust him and get back together with him this week or wait until after my holiday at the risk of him finding someone else while i'm away? Either way i definitely want to be with him, it's my trust issues that have held back the relationship so many times before, so i want to really work on them this time around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2006): You are smart to be wary. You are using your head and I respect that. Trust is an absolute in all healthy, happy relationships. When you don't have trust..one's fears and self-doubts can get the best of you. If this fellow has a tendency to flirt openly while in a relationship...his behaviours are showing he has a lack of self-control and he's not respecting you. This could over the long term, cause you to be very resentful and very sad. I would set some boundries with him. Tell him how his flirting makes you feel. You can't expect him to stop looking at other women when he is not with you, but out of love and respect, he can and should 'not' be flirting with other females...while he is in a relationship with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2006): I would wait until you return from holiday. This is because if you have trust issues you will be worrying about what he's doing back home, phoning him and checking up on him. This would probably ruin your holiday especially if he didn't answer your calls because you would be thinking about him and what he might be up to. Put this relationship on hold and see how things are when you come back. You never know you might meet someone special there, at least you would be a free agent and be able to enjoy yourself without any feelings of guilt. If the realtionship is meant to be then it will be there for you when you get back. Also it will give you time to think about the relationship for yourself, enjoy your holiday and go and have a good time!!!
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