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writes:I've been in this relationship for over 18 months now. I'm currently living with him. We're having our problems mainly becuase his family won't stop telling him what to do. I've been through too much to go through all of it again. I love him too much to let him go, it's just i wish that he'd hurry up and realise that i'm here for the long run. And i'm here for him, not for his family. We have really big fights at least once a week and when i try and talk to his family about it they say it's not their problem if we are having problems and it's not going to work out, so just leave him already.I really don't know what to do anymore. I've tried sitting down and talking about everything and getting it all out. That helps, for about four days!!! I've tried leaving for a week and letting him have some alone time to himself. I'm seeing someone just to figure out if it's me. But they're saying that he's the one with all the room to grow and figure out himself, when i have none.What should i do?H E L P ! ! ! Reply to this Question
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reader, alieP91 +, writes (20 December 2007):
alieP91 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you it does help in a way or two. But the answer to your question is no, he never stands up for me and when i ask him later about it all he says that i'm a big girl and i can look after myself.
I have a guy friend who i meet through my boyfriend and says that he's not good enough for me and that i should move out with him ina few months, i'm thinking of taking up the offer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): It is such a tragedy when families cannot support a relationship through good or bad times. People are judgmental and for some reason they don't seem able to be positive towards you or the relationship. I am 35 and have lived your current life for 14 years of marriage. I have to say that had I known that when you marry you marry a whole family I would have never done it. They have made my life miserable and divide me and my husband daily. I am ready to walk away because my husband does not stand up for 'us' and I want to ask you whether your boyfriend backs you up 100% to his family? He does not have to choose and I am quite sure you would never make him but he does need to clearly demonstrate where his first priority is - and that should be your happiness and he must grow up pretty quick and make his own decisions. I am saying all this because it never changes otherwise. You must ask yourself what sort of boyfriend do you have who is allowing you and him to be made miserable by his family and not do anything about it himself. I think you should get much tougher and see whether he gets some backbone. If he doesn't then I would leave and find yourself a proper 'man' not a mouse. Hope this helps you.
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