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writes:I've been dating my boyfriend for seven months now. I'm 22 and he is 38. I have met most of his family ( his dad,step mom, two of his sisters and a brother in law) all but one of his sisters were friendly to me but they all told him they don't think our relationship will work and they have called me a "gold digger". Yes finically he does well but I didn't know this when we met and it is not the reason why we are still together.He invited me on a trip with his family, his immediate family plus extend family (aunts,cousins etc) are going to a wedding in Mexico and making it a family reunion / wedding week. I want to go because it means so much to him, but at the same time knowing that most of the people there think I'm a gold digger and that we are the root of their gossip makes me uncomfortable.He has told me that their are a few cousins that he no longer speaks to because of their rude comments about me and asking personal question about our sex life.Should I go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2014): He probably is financially better at 38. Than you are at 22. I personally hate this expression " GOLD digger". Where in this case it even comes from: because there is a big age gap? With everything thats going on now families breaking up all the time, who can tell how it will workout between two of you. Did they say it to your face that you are a gold digger? I don't know know about this family reunion thing and wedding. If your ony friend wants you to go, I would go and don't pay attention to them.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 November 2014):
 I would stay home. This is someone's wedding and even IF you are not a gold digger, you being there can create drama that the BRIDE/GROOM may not like or appreciate. Personally, I would have THAT much respect for the couple about to get married. And I'd rather not let ME be the focal point of drama at a family gathering.
I'd let him go by himself. It's only a week or two anyways.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (13 November 2014):
 I wouldn't go nor would I expect my boyfriend to go if the circumstances were reversed. It's an untenable situation.
You could tell him that his family's approval is important to you and you will not jeopardize it further by acting in a way that causes them to question your motives. AND that insisting you spend time in close quarters, far from home with people you think don't like you is asking too much.
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