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writes:This guy and I started dating over the summer and we really hit it off. I found out later that he broke up with his girlfriend of two years just so he could be with me. Everything was perfect until he was in a motor cycle accident and that is how I was forced to meet his parents and sister. They hated me. They all really like his ex and talk to her on the phone and go out to lunch together. They even call her to watch their kids. I don't know what to do. How can i make them like me? I have tried just being myself and just not caring about what they think of me becasue i am in love with their son. Now that he is out of the hospital he is questioning our entire relationship becasue his family has kept her so close. I honestly thought that he was the one. Falling in love with him was the easiest thing I have ever done. But now his ex is back in the picture and I don't know how to handle it. Should I just walk out of his life and say go be miserable with her? or should I wait and see how things play out? I'm not the kind of girl who just waits around for a guy to make up his mind. If he has a doubt in his head I walk away and totally cut that person out of my life but with him it just so hard. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess I should have noted that he has been out of the hospital since the beginning of October. I was there for him everyday and was everything to him that his ex was not. His parents saw how happy I made him and how his spirits were never down in the hospital. I mean that is a tramatic experience, a motorcycle accident so I knew that someone had to be there for him. I really just do not understand his ex. She is two years older then him, wants to change everything about him, and won't leave. Why is she hanging around? Why can't she move on?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 February 2009):
His parents obviously really liked his ex, and their first impression of you was that you were the girl that came and broke his heart.
You made their son abandon her and they feel bad about that. They see you as a bad influence, even though it was his choice to leave his ex.
I'm not saying you ARE like this at all, but this is probably just how they see you.
All you can do is give them time. Try and be nice and make them see that their first impression is wrong.
They will come around after a while I am sure. Talk to your boyfriend about them and get him to help where he can by talking to them about why his relationship with his ex had come to an end and how you were just the thing that made him realise.
As you say, you will know when it gets to the point that it's easier to split up. Keep strong but give his folks a chance first.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): give him a chance.......he might deserve it
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