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writes:I'm 7 months pregnant with my ex's child and he wont answer my calls, letters, emails, or texts.I'm 20 and pregnant with our second child. We have a 19 month of baby girl. We're expecting a baby boy in early feb. He has currently been to a university over 200 miles away, coming home at the weekend to see us every other weekend. However he is now home for christmas and promised me and our daughter, that he would spend christmas with us and only visit his parents, whom refuse to accept me and our daughter, on christmas eve for a few hours and a few hours on new years day. Yet 2 weeks ago i got an a letter from his parents whom i do not speak to explaining that my ex no longer wanted to be with me, and that he didnt want to hear from us, but will send £20 a month for each child. So i tried to ring him, sending him emails, letters ect, and nothing. His phone goes straight to answer phone, and he sent me a text last night saying he can't be with me anymore because his parents dont like me and it's better if he goes along with what they say. I don't understand what i've done so wrong, my little girl is so upset, she keeps asking where daddy is. The stress means i've been in hositpal a few days ago because of high blood pressure. Im worried that my ex may be in danger as he adored our little family, and spoke about quitting university when our little boy is born. ( We know the sex ). I got a few parcels of christmas presents and rather a lot of baby boy clothes and a cheque for £500 on Monday from him and all personal affects from our relationship. I don't know what to do, is there any chance the police may be able to help me contact him? Where do we go from here? Please help me, i feel very alone right now. Thank you for any help you may give.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): If this is how they are going to act, then you need to get the courts involved.Just sending Child support payments is not enough. If he wants to see his children he has to either be forced to or he has to grow a set of balls and tell his parents where they can stick their arcaic attitudes.This is the 21st century. Parents no longer have the right to force their children into these sitations simply because of their own beliefs.So you need to get him AWAY from his parents. Either by court or by subterfuge (and whilst I generally don't condone lying, sometimes exceptions can be made).Or you could turn up to somewhere when you know he's alone and ask him to look into YOUR'S and his child's eyes and tell you this is what he wants.If he is too cowardly even then to stand up for himself and his child, then screw him. He didn't deserve you guys anyway.Flynn 24
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reader, scrdofyou  +, writes (23 December 2009):
 aww...sweetheartI am SO sorry to hear that. I really hope things start to look up for you!
If I were in your shoes, I would make a few more attempts at contacting him, and if it doesnt work, then do things to take your mind off of it.
Friends, family, etc etc. As for his parents, karma is one mean bitch, and they'll get whats coming to them in due time. How someone can live with themselves knowing theyre the reason for something like this happening, is beyond me.
As far as I'm concerned its none of their buisness, and if I were you, I wouldnt let them know its bothering me. Take the money each month, stick it out, give it a while, and see what happens.
I really feel for you, and I from the bottom of my heart hope things start going well for you, stress isnt good for the baby!
xo ayri
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