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I don't want to be alone for Christmas but I feel like an intruder to join my friend and her family...

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Question - (22 December 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 23 December 2009)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Does this make me pathetic? So I can't make it home for Christmas this year, and I'm trying to make the best of it. I told myself "this will be an opportunity to have a moment to clean house and organize my life a little", but I started thinking this will be the first Christmas I've spent alone. So I called my friend to see if she would be in town thinking perhaps her and her boyfriend were maybe going to do something special with each other and then just hit up the bars or something afterwards. My hope was perhaps I could be the third wheel and join them at the bar! But turns out she's going to be with her family and invited me to join, I said yes, but now I feel guilty and a little pathetic that I felt sorry for myself for being alone on Christmas. And most of all now I feel guilty that I'm intruding on her family's Christmas. It makes me a little sad because I wish I had a boyfriend or someone who liked me who wants to spend the holiday with me rather than my friends family who really feels sorry for me because I have no where to go for Christmas. They could genuinely want me over for Christmas I just feel weird like I'm intruding on a family tradition. Should I politely decline her invitation or go and make the best of it?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009):

You are not an intruder :) Our family is always open to others, it's part of the holiday 'spirit' to include others, it makes one feel good. Give them the gift of your presence.

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