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writes:Please help!!His aunty hates me and posted horribly messages to him when she found out we'd split up after a stupid argument (didnt even know what had happened).It sounds stupid but its caused sooo many problems for us because i dont want to be with someone who's family dont like me for no reason! His mum is lovely and i used to get on with his dad and step mumBut recently i left my phone in he lounge and went into the toilet and one of my friends used my phone and txt the whole of my phone book sayin 'dont worry she wont find out about us'! one of these people was his dad ( who ive only met once) and he is due to get married later next month!!! i explained it was my friend playing a practical joke but the step mum is still angry with me i feel. iv told her i wont b coming to the wedding becuase u feel so awkward even tho i havent done anything.. th worse of it all is that he is in afghanistan and doesnt know anything, and is expecting me to go to the wedding with him..an i go to Afghan shortly after he gets back so this needs to be sorted out! but i cant show my face knowin his family think i would do a thing like that!!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (25 February 2010):
 Definitely go to the wedding.
What I suggest is you telling the aunt that you apologize for any misunderstanding, tell her that your boyfriend is really looking forward to the wedding and that you're excited to attend. Try to mend fences a bit (even if you feel you were in the right. Pick your battles), grit your teeth and try to make things right with the aunt. Even if she acts like a jerk and refuses your apology, at least you were the bigger person and you tried. Don't get frustrated, just remain cool and calm and polite. Kill 'em with kindness, as they say.
If you are serious about him and want to show his family how serious you are, you'll attend the wedding. Bring a thoughtful gift and a card and show what a wonderful person you are. Hey - she doesn't need to like you, but you can at least make a great impression on the rest of the family. Get some more allies!
If you eventually want to create a family with your boyfriend, you'll make the effort to bond with his! Sorry you're in such a crappy situation, good luck sweetness!
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reader, KernowWarrior  +, writes (24 February 2010):
You have nothing to be ashamed of, go to the wedding! Even if its only just to p#*s off the auntie. Look her in the eye and hold your head up high!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010): well this is a bit of a pickle.... well I think you should stand up for yourself. If you didn't do it tell them so and try to get his dad to back you up too. talk to his mom about it.. im sure if she likes you that much she'll help you out. But I think you should definately tell your boyfriend or they will!
good luck x
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