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writes:I am 60 years old and married for 25 years. A relative saw my husband with a woman at theater. I found a motel receipt (paid by cash, not credit card) registered under his name. When asked, he said he saw homeless couples and let them stay in that motel. Yet I do not have courage to leave him. What's wrong with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): You need courage? How would you feel if you caught an STD from your husband? It happens to married women every day, regardless of age. My friends mother is terminally ill with AIDS. She is 68 and caught it from her husband of 20 years. He is dead.
I'm willing to guess this isn't your husbands first transgression after 25 years of marriage. He's probably just slipped up.
I'm only speculating, but think back to moments throughout your marriage. In retrospect, you'll be able to see the signs.
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reader, romany  +, writes (17 June 2010):
 Its bound to be frightening, but if you have a good circle of friends and family around you, then being alone BUT happy is far better than being with someone who isn't making you happy.......However, you've not asked him about the woman at the theatre and the motel room properly, but i think you need to, 25 years is a long time, and I think you owe it to yourself to try and work at this, if that is what you want, he may realise that he has taken you for granted, and maybe you can forgive him his misdeamor, and move forward. If you dont want to work it out, Still interrogate him, his confession should fuel you with courage to kick him out, dont move out, let him go. If you think you could be in danger, do you have a strapping youngster, a son/grandson/nephew you can call on, after you confront him. Good Luck.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (17 June 2010):
 Nothing is wrong with you...your just trying to figure out how the man you have been married to for so many years is now treating you badly and cheating.
The whole line about the homeless couple is clearly a lie.
I wished we lived in a world where people had more respect for their husbands and wives.
I really feel for you. At the moment yu need to give yourself time to absorb what has happened and gather close family around you to give you support.
Maybe it's just a fling for him, or maybe it's been going on a while...don't suffer it alone, or worse, blame yourself. He is the one in the wrong so it's his responsibility to give you an explaination.
You do not have to leave, you don't have to make any decisions until you feel ready.
God bless you and give you peace.
AE xxx
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