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*ealsmiles1967
writes:I have a man in my life whom I adore that I have been given a second chance with. We split up years ago with the same issue again. His ex wife.. She is manic depressed who is manipulative and selfish and unable to work or function because of "Her disease" which may I add is her excuse for everything. She uses their child all the time to get everything she wants and if she doesn't get it the tantrums begin and last for days on end.. everything he does is to protect his teenage child from the mothers madness and episodes but by doing this she is completely dependent on him. Her own family has washed their hands of her because of her selfish episodes. I love this man to pieces and have voiced my opinion on several different occasions. How can I make him see that he may be enabling her behavior instead of helping his daughter. He feels sorry for her and his daughter. I do not want this to break us up again... they are divorced and should act that way it's been over 10 years and he's still responsible for the ex wife.?? how can I get him to stop being afraid of his exes behavior and let her maybe suffer some concequences for her actions to learn that the world doesn't owe her.. ?? Without him thinking of course that I don't care about his child..who btw will not leave her mother because she feels like she has to take care of her.. Help...
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 hi
if this lady is genuinely ill, you should not expect your man to wash his hands of her and in particular his daughter who still lives with her. if he does what he can to make his ex wife content, that in turn will make his daughters life easier. you have no reason to be jealous, it doesn't seem like he has any desire to return to her. all as she is to him is an extremely troubled friend who has got no one else to help her. even her family has turned their backs on her. i think it shows he is a caring man. can you try to support him in this? it can't be easy for him
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