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writes:Am i crazy for not wanting my girlfriend to have guy friends. she told me before that she doesnt want guy friends but she recently decided that she wants to start haging out with guys. she thinks i dont trust her but i do. We've been together 5 years why now? i just dont under stand why she would rather hang out with them over me? what do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Why not? I trust my husband. It's all about trust and keeping it in your pants.
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female
reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 November 2010):
For B.Shakey, it doesn't mean men have to act upon this desire..It's possible for a man and a woman to have a platonic relationship, it's about keeping your hormones in check.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): I have one question for you: if you really trust her then what's the problem?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 November 2010):
Do you have friends who are females? If you answered yes to this question, then it would be hypocritical for you to put a restriction on her friends..Regardless, you cannot tell your girlfriend who she can and can't be friends with, that's called being controlling. It's perfectly natural and socially acceptable for the opposite sex to be friends, nothing more. My best friend happens to be a male and he gets along so well with my husband. You just have to have the trust..why are you questioning it?
Ultimately she's going to do what she wants, which is to have male friends..If she finds you attempting to put restrictions on her then she could walk.
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female
reader, Maria-consuela  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 Crazy.. No.
Unrealistic and shortsighted, possibly. The fact that she felt the need to ask your permission to have male friends is kind of silly. If you met a female and you enjoyed her company in a platonic way - would you change your opinion or rule about no gender-opposite friends..
She did come to you and talk to you about it, that is a good thing. Communication lines are open and she is being honest and forthcoming. Ease up a little bit, otherwise she will feel confined and begin to rebel.
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reader, Thoughtless +, writes (5 November 2010):
 yes u r i understand it might be hard but she needs 2 have her freedom as well she needs friends of both genders & u guys should talk about ur days & how u spend it with friends i think u & her both having ur own social life will do get & have something for u guys 2 talk about something new do not exclude her from seeing her friends tell her u want it at a limit but u should trust her & u should go out & relax with ur friends as well :] keep a balance! goodluckkk
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