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writes:I have recently started seeing this really fit bloke and I am really happy but I have just found out that he used to date a glamour model and it ended badly between them, anyway, my situation is that I am the most flat chested female ever, and I am like why are you with me as he is always looking at lads mags. Reply to this Question
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 There is this saying in Spanish: "en gustos se rompen generos," and it translates roughly to "everyone has different tastes." Of course you can compete. It's not about who is the "better." That's relative. For him, you may the best person to be with. Some guys prefer a huge chest, some prefer a small one, some guys don't have a preference. I've always been attracted to latinos, not because I've closed the door on others, but because they are just magical for me, I have lived in both cultures and noticed a cultural difference. But above all what matters to me is to have someone nice, and sweet who understands feelings and knows how to listen. He is probably attracted to your inner qualities... and chemistry has a lot to do with it too. There's probably chemistry between the two of you.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 As a guy I can tell you I'd really not want to date a 'glamour model'. I've known a few models in my life and ... well, it's just not my thing at all. And I know thats true of many other men too. Your boyfriend is probably really glad to be with you now.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 Hi,
the lads mags are a bit of titilation, nothing else.
I bet he hated every waking moment with the glamour model, she was most likely a self interested walking nightmare. I went with a leggy beautiful girl once and she was so self absorbed ( and lousy in bed too! ) that I couldnt wait for it to end!
You, on the other hand most likely provide him with the things that every human being desires, warmth , companionship, fun , kindness....who wants a super model who's going to pout and be a little glamour puss when you can have a real relationship with someone who actually cares about you.
That's the difference.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (17 August 2008):
 If you keep letting your self esteem act out like this, you will push away your bf.
He is with you because until now, you address his emotional needs, and it did not work out with her because she did not address his emotional needs.
It is not always about the looks.
-Frank B Kermit
http://www.franktalks.com
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): I doubt very much much that you are! Big tits doen't necessarily equal beauty! It's what's inside that counts, your attitude, your smile, your devilish streak, your sense of humour. All too often women compare themselves purely on physical appearance, which counts for absolutely nothing if that's all you've got.
All men look at lads mags. I read the Sunday Sport every week and there's more tits in there than you can shake a stick at. Would I want to date any of those women? Not really because I'm happy with what I've already got - a soulmate with a pair of 34AA's as well as a sense of humour that very closely matches mine.
He's with you - just accept that and don't question the why's and the wherefores. If tiny tits turned him off would he be with you? No he wouldn't. But he is, so he sees nothing wrong with them!
Keep smiling!
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reader, ask sweeney :) +, writes (17 August 2008):
 look at it like this, if hes ex girlfriend was a glamour model and he has still chosen to be with you it obviously shows he sees something in you that he didnt see in her, and even tho your not sure what that might be, you should still be proud of it because it shows that you've gave him something she never did. take care. please write back to me and me know how things go.
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x +, writes (17 August 2008):
 He probably wants someone a little different. Some glamour girls can be a little bit snobby because of their looks, which usually annoys guys, because yes, they may be prettier than most, but also they're common as muck. [No offence to any glamour girls on here.]
Many people are getting blonde hair and extentions, fake tans and fake boobs just to look like their glamour modelling idols, well soon everyone is going to look like carbon copies of the person who's just walked past them.
Sounds like he doesn't want that. Make the most of it and him. It sounds like he doesn't want someone such high maintenance if it ended badly. Live up to his expectations and get some confidence in yourself.
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