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writes:im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m my bestfriend that ive liked for months and months asked me to be his girlfriend only 2 days ago.. and now that im in the picture as his girlfriend, it would seem his ex wants back in too. He and his ex girlfriend were together for 5 years, and im worried about her coming over and catching up with him, just cause im scared that his feelings will come back and he'll return to her. she also has a boyfriend, but that doesnt stop her from being flirty with him he asked me if it was okay that he catches up with her, and that he promises nothing will happen. and although i trust him that he wont DO anything, im scared that he WILL get stronger feelings for her, then what he has for me...i mean they were together for 5 years, been broken up for 8 months and we've only been dating a mere 48 hours.. im just really scared :(
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (25 May 2011):
 Of course we never trust the ex girlfriend, but we do trust our boyfriends to have self control in this testy situation. Think of it in those terms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice guys :) i do trust him, its just her i dont really trust. but he assured me theres nothing to worry about. so i dont look like a controlling girlfriend or anything thank god.:)
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 May 2011):
If you trust him then there's no question about it, let him catch up with his ex.
They were together 5 years, so what. They're not together now.
Let me put it this way, if you tell him you don't want him to meet up with his ex..then that will make you look like a controlling girlfriend. You don't want that image. That will cause him to dump you, giving her more of an advantage.
Instead be a trooper, show that you're a confident girl who has nothing to worry about when it comes to your relationship.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (24 May 2011):
 HI
well he did ask you if ou were ok about this. if he had any intentions of getting back with her, my guess is he wouldn't have told you about her wanting to meet up. Why dont you suggest to him that you all make a day of it, get some mutual freinds together, so you can be there too. And be honest with him as he was with you, tell him how this is making you feel. he will understand if he cares enough about you. :)
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