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writes:I'm seeing this new guy. It's early, but he seems pretty great, and sort of weirdly crazy about me. Which is nice.Here's the thing about the new guy. He added me as a facebook friend a few days ago, so of course I checked out his profile. We already talked about our exes, sort of generally, and I know his last gf cheated on him, and they broke up a yr ago (after 9 mos dating). So why does he still have all these photo albums on facebook with the two of them together? They're travel photos, but still. (There are also a bunch of photos of him w/ who I guess is the girl he dated before his most recent ex, posted by others, but w/ both of them tagged.)Is this the new normal? I mean, I don't need him to burn all his pictures of his exes. But am I crazy that it seems weird to have them all posted on facebook?
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reader, typ3  +, writes (28 August 2009):
 Ok,The guy righ above me is prty close to the truth.Ask him.Here is some general rules I think is important to remember:1. Men/boys/guys, what ever you wanna call us, don't realy care about photos. You can find exeptions, but generely we just take them, and forget about them. The only pictures you girls should worry about is the pictures that follows the description under.2. If the picture is not made spessial in any kind of way (framed, profile, front page stuff, background etc). It's eather forgotten about (most likely) or it serves some higher purposel, like a memory from a nice vecation or a trip you would want to remember. NOT that you still love your ex or anything.3. If the picture isn't abnormal (like kissing etc). You shouldn't think much of it. Hello... it's just a picture.4. Most guys don't burn every picture of there ex and delete every thing they can find. Only if it was true love and the she did the dumping. But then again, he wouldn't probably do then take her name of the facebook profile.5. We are stupid. We don't understand woman, and we never will. When you think you know what we think. Just try to find out what a ape or a 5 year old kid would do, and find the middleground between that and what you thought. Simple creatures has simple minds.Hope this helps. And it's not a joke. I realy meen this stuff. I know myself that i'm a wery simple organism, even though you girls make us sound like prodigy of cunning deseptions.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (28 August 2009):
 This is why I will never get a facebook account.
These days it seems every little thing you do is scrutinised , and this is a classic example of it. And , moreover, not the first time we have seen this on Dear Cupid.
The simple answer to your question, is ask him. Everything else is presumption.
Good luck.
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