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writes:Well here's my situation people. I'll tell yous the hole story well it all started when i met this guy at a little get together with friends. Yeah we had some little to drink and me and my sister were talking about our kids. He over heard us talking and he said oh im about to have a baby myself. So i had to ask are you still with the babys mother? and he said no. And i went off a little because i was all like why? why not huh?? thats mestedup that you left her. And he was like umm... she left me..and i was like OMG! iam sooo sorry and he was like yeah she left me for someone else. And i said iam sorry to hear that so we just started talking and we just hited off from there. It was really love at first site bc i remember walking in our friends place and looked over and noticed him right away and he noticed me. Well we have only been together for two and a half months. And we are very much in love like seriously in love. Well now apparently his ex his babys mama who which is still pregante with his kid bc shes due in august the 5th. Well she is trying to brain wash him into taking her back and her mother is too. Just to let you all know me and him are very honest with each other he told me how she has been acting all nice out of no wheres and just started texting him about the baby and im just like what the hell ... He told me when i first met him that when she broked up with him before for someone else when she was still pregos that he dated someone else and ended up breakiingup with the girl bc he took her back like a fool when she just ended up hurting him again. And now that he met me he loves me very much and is afraid of making the wrong dession again meaning leaving me for her when he knows he is loves me soooo much he never crys and he was really bad lastnight saying you dont know how much i love you. I really love him and care about him soo much and i have been in plenty serious relationships to know what type of man to fight for and he is it. I i don't know what to do im scared she is going to get to his head more :(. Her mom was trying to tell him everything would be easier for him if he stayed with her because so this way the baby wouldnt have a split family. Which sounds like to me that shes trying to guilt trip into the idea even though he knows its wrong because he loves me. He even said he really wish he wasnt having her baby now bc none of this would be happening because he loves me.So i need some advice on convincing him that she isnt right and iam better for him. To me it just sounds like she was getting jealious and saw that he was happy and decides to ruin his happyness all bc she has that power bc she is pregnant with his kid..:( please someone help me please! I dont want to loose him!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (19 June 2010):
 It doesn't seem like he needs to be convinced that she isn't right for him or that you are better for him. He's already figured that out for himself... so just relax! :) You knew the situation before you started dating him, he's been entirely honest with you, he's professed his love for you, he doesn't even sound like he's even considering going back to her... So just support him and continue to be the girl he fell in love with and you can do no wrong... mmmmk? :)
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reader, romany  +, writes (19 June 2010):
 Think your getting this out of perspective,
she left him,
he met you,
your the bee's knee's to him,
he is gonna be a daddy, but can't love ex, coz he loves you.
Your fearing something that aint happened, and not likely to.
Reverse it, if your kids daddy desperately wanted you back, would you go back with him, when you have the love of your life infront of you, supporting you, just out of guilt for you kids???
Just support him, stop bleating to him your fears of losing him, what with you and his ex, I bet the poor guys head in the bin.
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