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writes:What should I do? I fell for a guy who just broke up with is girlfriend. We both fell right away, it was perfect. Then he found out that his ex was pregnant (She has been pregnant for 3 months, he did cheat) with his baby. Should I forget about something that seemed so perfect or move on? I can't stop thinking about him, I believe he feels the same way about me, but he has to deal with this. HELP :'(
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): im in a similar situation, maybe i can offer advice from the other side. You seem like a really caring girl and seem to like him alot. Right now im 7 months pregnant and my childs father walked out on us. weve tried working things out but he's been seeing other people. He says i need to move on and im doing my best to do that. but if there is a possibility that things could be worked out between him and his ex it would be best for the childs sake. I know thats hard to hear but he has a responsibility to deal with and are you really ready to deal with raising a child as well. From my perspective, i cant see my son being around another another woman (ie. baby daddy's new girlfriend) it just hurts me too much knowing that he left our family. another thing, if he did chose to not be with her, what makes you think he wouldnt do it to you. all guys are great for the first few months (i was with mine for a year and he was the man of my dreams) until i got pregnant and then it all changed, he has nothing to do with me or our son. worst of all the baby was planned. so just do some long hard thinking about it to save yourself the heartache. From the baby's mother perspective (and i dont know how she is) but it would make it hard on me, and upset me. doing this alone is tough enough, expecially when the childs father moves on with his life and the mother is left pregnant and having to live with the consequences. hope that helps some
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (2 December 2008):
You would be better off moving on. sorry. but your head will be wrecked over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): You two were together in a short time, 1 month right? And he said he was completely over his ex? I hope so, I've went through that before with someone who said that then when we had issues he tried to get back with her behind. There will be constant contact alllll the time between the ex and him for the baby. Do you really want to deal with this stress? I think you should move on, you have nothing to lose, You two only been together a month. Get out before it gets too serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): For one he cheated so what makes you think he won't cheat on you? Yeah he might be well into you just like im sure he was into his ex. For two, there is definitely a possibilty that he may just end up getting back together with his ex since she is carrying his baby. She may want him back because she's pregnant and then that will cause more drama for you. Trust me, you don't want to deal with baby mama drama. Your young, find someone who does not have all this luggage with them. Good luck dear.
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reader, Flporrego  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 Well, if he really cheated on, I'd suggest to move on for now. If you two are really destined to be together, then God will bring you two together in the near or far future. He has a lot to deal with now and it will only get worse for him from now on. Maybe this whole experience will make him mature. But i do not reccomend dwelling over this guy. It might ruin things for you. With a baby in his hands, he probably won't pay the attention you might want from him. You have to do a lot of thinking, but for now, let him be. Let him deal with whats been put on his plate so that he can learn how to better cope with what is going on in his life. Maybe after that he will be ready for a serious and trusting relationship. And one more piece of advice. Think. About the pros and the cons. Don't make the wrong decision. :). I hope it works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry... i wrote he "did cheat" I meant he didn't cheat. He were together for a just a month, but in only a month he told me that he was completly over his ex cause he found somethig better (me), and was sure she will to.
But she's pregnent and hes heart broken and dosen't know what to do.
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