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*implez77
writes:I have a major problem with my boyfriends ex. She's always constantly interfering with our relationship for the past two years now. She wanted him back when she knew he was getting together with me, she always calling, texting and chatting with him oh and never misses an opportunity to talk to him. One afternoon she was all over him holding him!!! And when I got upset all he could say was "that's just the way she is". He spent time with her behind my back and when I found out we had a huge argument and he told me that she was his first love and that he would never stop caring about her. I just want to know if I should stay or leave and if I stay how do I control this situation with his ex?
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reader, dimplez77 +, writes (11 March 2012):
dimplez77 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for all the advise just a little update on what ended up happening. I ended up leaving the guy because he was like a magnet for drama and i just could not take it anymore. She (the ex) ended up dating his best friend which i found completely hilarious karma can be such a bitch and he learnt the hard way then his best friend broke up with her and started trying to chat me up which i found even more hilarious because she was all upset about the break up anyway i told him where to shove it and moved on with my life
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reader, cat lady  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Nothing I can add to aunt honesty's lucid and efficient appraisal of your situation; I just came in to commiserate with you. What a pain in the butt! Dump that jerk yesterday! When you find yourself struggling to hold somebody's attention, it's time to go - period. If you eat something that makes you throw up, you know to avoid it next time. Likewise, that guy and his games are making you sick so you're miserable. You're a young girl and no doubt, attractive, else you wouldn't have attracted that tomcat to begin with, and there are still plenty of decent guys out there who dream of somebody just like you.
I'll tell you a little secret, though: know where self-esteem comes from in truth? Skills and abilities! To excel in something from your own dedication and hard work. You pull that from inside of yourself; nobody can give it to you. Somewhere in you resides a talent that's suffocating under all this preoccupation with 'relationships.' Bah! Waste of time at your age! Give yourself up to developing that talent and you shall shine like a beacon - and THAT is going to attract the kind of people who bring out the best in you. Trust your inner power, kid. You have oodles of it you're yet to discover.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 It sounds to me like you cant control the situation you told him yourself how you feel and he was not prepared to do anything about it. Ok so she may have been his first love but you are his present she is his past and he should be putting you first and your feelings but obviously he is not doing this.
I think the best thing to do is take some time to think and ask yourself are you realy able to put up with this. He went behind your back to meet her so its obvious he still cares a lot about her you need to ask yourself can you deal with this. If not then you need to sit down and tell him he needs to put his priorities straight or he will lose you. Goodluck.
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