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36-40,
*RSB_22
writes:Hey every one, have a bit of a dilemma.my husband's ex is a total bender, i am sick of dealing with her.i want some help.let me start.she befriended me as soon as she found out who i was and as our children went to the same school i wud see her every day.she was gettin a lot of maintenance from him and used not let him see her.150euro like!but as soon as she realised he was seeing someone she wanted him to take her.she used to wiggle her way in tellin me horrible stories bout him sayin that i should brak up with him and so forth and begged me not to say that we were talking cos he wud stop payin and wud not take the daughter.it came to a point that i had to be honest wit him and i was.turned out all her stories were bull and she even made up a few bout me to him!!!!well skippin a long a few months.oh yes forgot to mention the child has had chronic lice since i now her and the mother has done nothin about it i tied my best.but any way.we got married in sept this year and the day before the weddin we sed it to her for the child to come and she sed she think bout it and what did she do?she sent the child to school on purpose then when school was finished she rang with the child there and it was too late.she is now sayin that i am not to talk to the daughter when she comes to visit.or to disipline her.i have kids too i treat them all the same.i not changin my household rules to suit her.so i need help on this.at the back of it i still thinks she has feelings for him and is bitter they broke up and uses the child as a pawn to hurt him coz thats the only way she can.she is a patological liar.every word she sez is a lie she even wud lie to say she saw a film and didnt.any advice on how to deal with her.i had it out with her now a few times and she totally trips over herself bout what she sed even to me.i am half thinkin of textin her and sayin "if you have some problem with me please say it to me"thanks
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reader, MRSB_22 +, writes (5 November 2008):
MRSB_22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhet thanx for replyin
since i wrote that i got on to a solicitor and my husband taking her to court over the maintenance access and guardianship and the phonecalls so hopefully it will put an end to it we were also advised that if there are any threats made against us to report her.and friday night she did and i reported her we are still waiting for her to sign for the summons she dont even no what were up to.i just cant wait till that psycho bitch is out of our lives
and we can just focus on being a family and my husband seeing his child
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (22 October 2008):
I don't think starting a text war. She does have a problem but no she is not going to talk about it with you.
You just need to back away from her. Let your husband pick up the kid for visits and then treat her exactly as you and he think is the right way to treat a child.
She only has all this power because you are letting her bother you. If you stop and smile sweetly and stop trying to understand and just deal with her in a polite way in the minimal amounts you have to then she will eventually give up.
Good Luck!! xx
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