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writes:i have been dating this guy for almost 3 years we met when i was going though a divorce and after the loss of my 24 yr old son. He really helped me alot. he was separated from his girlfriend at the time. We started off as friends but i fell in love with him. We spend everyday together he said he will always love his ex but loves me too. He hasnt seen her in over a year but just had a heart attack and a triple bypass and she showed up at the hospital. Now she is trying to get back with him and he is confused he still sees me everyday but is talking to her what should i do. i cant take another heart break. All his friends say that they wont work it out cuz she only takes him back for a couple of months then she is done again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009): Im so sorry that your in this situation. It's a very difficult situation but ultimately you have to sit it out if this man means so much to you. If you guy have been together for three years then you must be in a fairly strong position to be able to lay your cards on the table. When you are able, you should talk to him about how you feel. Be honest and tell him how much he means to you and tell him you don't want to get hurt. Don't enter into any dialogue with this other woman. Maybe your man will come to his own conclusion but after such massive surgery, he probably just needs time to recover and not deal with relationship issues at the moment.
Bide your time and see which way things go. If he is going to get back with her, I doubt there is much you can do as men tend to do just what they want to do and don't like being told otherwise. Just be supportive and honest and give him time to work it out.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (11 January 2009):
 Well, this is a difficult situation. That "I will always love my ex" crap pisses me off. That means he never got over her and you could be outa luck. Give him a couple weeks from the time he started talking with her, actually maybe just a week. Then you have to ask him who he wants. You have to know or you have to walk away. Which I know really really sucks and is almost too hard. Thats my best answer.
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