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anonymous
writes: So me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 3 months. We have had our ups and down, but who hasn't. I love his guy a whole lot. But, lately, things haven't been adding up. His sister is telling me stuff about him that I rather not have known, but his sister like's starting fights. And I was on his myspace today and he commented a girl in her bra, looking down, and you can see her chest very good, and he said "love the way you look lol" and I usually know his friends but, I never met her. And he tells me I don't know how to use myspace, messages, comments, etc. and that just shocked me about what he said. She's the only person I know of that he has done that to (comment wise). We haven't had intercourse in a while, thats when I started to think that he is seeing somebody else. I may just being paranoid but,just things have been not right lately. He has been lying quite a lot lately, over anything and everything. How do I get him to confess their is another girl? What should I do? Is he cheating?
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reader, 48years +, writes (12 January 2009):
just an experienced guess, here...
He will NEVER confess to you...and he will never be able to answer all the questions you have to your liking. It's a guy thing to just fade away and let the girl do the dirty work of breaking up.
However, if she's willing to have sex with him, he'll make an exception.
Learn now, before he rips your heart up again: Never have make up sex with an ex.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (11 January 2009):
Just be sincere in a conversation by asking him straight out. If you are sincere enough he will most likley comfort you and probably say everything is ok. If he gets heated it's a good sign he's up to something. But it might not necesarally be cheating. it could be he's getting board or a number of other things.
You will have to be witty, stop talking to the sister because she could be playing you both around. What has she said to him about you?
You need to reestablish trust with your bf because it sounds like it's slipping away. Do this by having your own time. Romance builds up the trust and comfort and irons out a lot of questions in relationships.
Let us know how you go ;)
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (11 January 2009):
There might not be another girl. In fact, except for a little flirting he is probably not cheating,... yet. Sounds like you need to ask him to sit and have a conversation with you. And just ask him whats going on. I have to admit that it doesnt sound good for you, but at least you can get some answers and move forward.
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