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writes:Ive always thought people are in a serious relationship when they "want" to do special things for each other. ive been seeing this guy for the past year, im very attached to him, probably in love with him. i know for a fact that i mean a lot to him...but he never does anything special for me. he will for instance look at something and say "when i get my first salary i will buy u this" and then proceed to forget it completely, or say that he will make a card for my birthday and then i will end up getting it 3 months after my bday...somehow to me, it seems that he is not as much into the relationship as i am, or doesnt want it enough..i like him very much and would love to think of a future with him, which he says he wants to think of with me...is his carelessness a cause to be worried about? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): Hi
Yeah. Completely agree with you, in fact been there you know. And, yeah, my man too agreed to see p.s. i love you! Hey, I think that you guys are relatively new as in the couple is less than 5months old, right (of course I can be wrong). Though, you know, an insecure girl (according to me) is a loaded rifle, you never know what trouble our minds brew! SO, my advise to you would be to keep busy and concentrate on living your life (that is your individual life) to the fullest. Keep it packed with activities, it will make you more interesting in his eyes and when you aren't around all that much, he will want to do things to make you feel special. (there is nothing wrong with making him work it a bit, this is like keeping your relation fresh). If you are already doing this, then kudos to you my friend.
And, yeah, love requires a lot of patience and acceptance. I have learned this, so am telling you. When there are tough days (and there will be) just remember the good times.
I wish you the very best
Love and God Bless :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionfirst of all,thank u clariss,what u say is completely true..they do have their own way of letting us know they care..
i was worrying yesterday,and then i went out with him in the evening,it was so perfect,it made me realize that all these insecurities arise from not seeing him that often sometimes..ya,sure he doesnt bring me flowers,but he does see to it that my car has fuel..he even agreed to watch p.s. i love you just because i said the "jerry" there was so perfect:)...and i guess he will grow up someday..
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): Hi
Well, some guys are just that, a little stupid when it comes to romancing a woman... they don't do it, don't get our hints or anything!
I have lectured my man on the sane topic that is worrying you and no results! If you find a solution to this.. please let me know too... I too want for my man.
But, this I can tell, is he there for you? He might not want to buy you flowers but does he ensure your safety and is caring and protective? Does he help you with your problems and never tell you that you are overreacting? Does he care about your feelings and focus on you when you are together?
Men have a different way of saying that they love us. We expect flowers, but they check if our car has enough fuel and is in the right condition. It is just the way they are and there is little we can do about it, except praying that one day.... you know...
Love
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