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writes:I have liked this guy for a while, over a year in fact. We used to work together but then I went away for a year. Since I've been home I've hardly seen him but he's been ringing me most evenings for a chat. Anyway i've always been the kind of person to threaten a friendship by revealing my feelings and having not received any reciprocation from him, I was kinda alright with things as they were. Last night everything changed. He rang me as usual and the conversation quickly changed to a very surprising direction. He started making remarks about me and initially I was pretty happy if a little stunned. But he went further trying to engage in dirty talk and it made me very uncomfortable. I didn't reciprocate and he began to get embarrassed about it all eventually putting the phone down. I have been worrying all day if I did something to annoy him and now I'm stuck cos I don't know what to do about it. Most of all I don't want to lose one of the best friends I have. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. He is currently not talking to me at the moment which is a slight barrier. I'm trying to be patient but it's kind of killing me. We'll just have to wait and see, I guess.
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reader, bookworm  +, writes (20 June 2010):
 I understand! I think the thing you should do is tell him you like him, because you still do, don't you? Also tell him that you didn't like the dirty talk. When he went there, he reciprocated your feelings, so you know that he fancies you. Take it slow with him, so if you don't actually like the relationship aspect, you dont lose the friendship. Tell him you want a relationship, but you dont want to lose the friendship. If he is the friend he seems to be, we will take you up on the offer, and take it slow enough to not jeopardize the friendship.
Hope I helped...
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