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41-50,
*bradley
writes:My boyfriend and I been together 2 years. He goes out with co workers but tells me nothing, does not text or call, he tells me he doesn't need to check in and doesn't want me to know where he hangs out. What do I do? His co worker told me he is planning on breaking up with me in August and moving away. That he stopped caring about me 4 months ago. His co worker and him had words at work and the other guy might lose his job what do I do?
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (30 March 2009):
 sounds like your boyfriend has already broken up with you without telling you. He is giving you hints he is checking out of the relationship and unfortunately there is nothing you can do to change his mind.
If you love him and want to save it the only way is to give distance in the relationship and do your own thing.
Focus on yourself and what makes you happy without him in it.
Or the other option is breaking up when him first so you can move on and beat him to the punch. This could save your pride and protect your heart just a little bit better.
Whatever the case..it is sad he told his co workers before you. So I would cut him loose because its true..he does not care about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): Sweetheart, didn't we already answer this question? What do you want to do? What options do you have? Your boyfriend is showing you he doesn't care about you if he goes out doesn't tell you where he is or who he is with, that is a huge red flag....he is gaining his independence from you.
I think if he lives with you, you need to find another place to live immediately. The coworker of his losing his job, what does that have to do with you? Is your boyfriend using this possibility as some sort of leverage over you to make you feel guilty for something?
What you do is you put some distance between him and you....if he truly cares about you, he will want to fix things. If he doesn't you have your answer, you won't have to wonder and you will have your own place and not have to rely on him for anything.
You can't keep someone in your life that doesn't want to be there, I am sorry, but it sounds like the guy may have told you the truth about your boyfriend....actions speak louder than words, and your gut is telling you something is wrong, and your gut is not lying to you....your body knows things, senses things before your brain is ready to hear it.
So get moving, take some action and take care of yourself and get your own place....as soon as you can, like tomorrow!
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