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His brother tried it on with me and I also think my bf is cheating on me. How do I handle this?

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Question - (19 January 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 20 January 2011)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend and I been going out for almost a year....The thing is he used to be a player and so did i so we both have trust issues...Anyway The other day we got into a argument and he left me at his house with his brother.

I was pissed and upset and his brother was trying to make me feel better. So while i was there he started telling me that my boyfriend has been cheating and that he doesnt deserve me and kept moving closer.

i asked him to back up and he asked why babe?

I told him because i go with your brother and don't call me babe!

Then He Started Sayin SO what, i'm better then him and will acually treat you right because i love you! I said Im not that type to go out with family and i dont feel that way about you.

He got upset and told me when my boyfriend got back to ask who was A... and S... (girl's names) and then went to his room.

About 2 hours later my boyfriend comes home and i ask him who where the girls.

He just stared at me and said i dont know what you're talking about but looked away when he said it and got real defensive. So now I have Problems.

1.is my boyfriends cheating?

2.what do i do about His Brother being IN Love wit me

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A female reader, Fabulosa United States +, writes (20 January 2011):

Fabulosa agony auntGet a straight answer from your bf. And trust your gut. And as far as his brother. STAY AWAY!! he not a good person if hes trying to get with his brother gf. If he doesn't respect his brother he wont respect you. And im pretty sure he doesn't love you he just wanted to have sex with you.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011):

Well, neither his brother nor he are in love with you.

How old are these boys?

My advice, not knowing any more than you have told, is to get away from these guys and stay away from them, because they are both head tripping you.

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A female reader, AmyN United States +, writes (19 January 2011):

Bad situation. You will probably only end up getting hurt. In a ~real~ relationship loyalty and trust and absolutely paramount. You mentioned he was a 'player'... first off honey a guy like that is not a real man. No real man has meaningless sex with anyone. True real men are hard to find, but they do in fact exist. Being a man is to have a sense of honor, and respect for those you care about. I suggest you discreetly investigate the possibility of him cheating, and if you find anything unusual (or concrete proof) to just end it.

As for his brother.. If this guy is willing to damage his relationship with his own brother then he will have no problem with doing the same to you in the future should you two hook up. He probably won't quit trying now that he has tried once, so stay away from him! If he comes near you walk away without speaking to him. If he calls, block his number. If he shows up at your place then don't answer the door. He sounds like a grade A creep that only wants to get in your pants. Under no circumstance should you be alone with this character. Nothing good will come of it this I promise you.

If I was you I'd walk away from the entire situation. My feelings are that neither one of them can be trusted.

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