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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear all,I'm in my last year of school and iv been with my boyfriend about 5 months now and I adore him.He's been best friends with a girl for years, even before he even met me they were very close. I know they've never done anything remotely sexual and my boyfriend says he sees her as 'just one of the guys' I'm so jealous. I think about him getting off with her all the time, I feel jealous even when i just see him sitting next to her, I can't stop thinking about her. When she is away, I then feel happy for the rest of the day.My last boyfriend had a problem with flirting with loads of girls all the time. Please help me with some ways to stop my jealously as i am certain it may ruin this relationship and any further relationships in the future :( x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): First off, it's not wrong for you to be jealous. Any girl in your situation would be. It's unusual for men to have close female friends who arn't their girlfriends, so the fact that your boyfriend does have one makes it all the more difficult.You have to approach this situation carefully. Remember that your boyfriend is with you, and not with her. That's the first step. He is obviously not attracted to her.Secondly, don't focus on the hobbies he does with her. Instead, create your own special hobbies with him. That way, you share something of your own with him and only him.Thirdly, how much time is he spending with her exactly? A few hours a week? If its not over the top, then Im afraid you cant say much. But if he's running to her about every little thing, confiding in her when he's upset, and ditching you to be with her, then it's time you let him know it makes you uncomfortable.
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