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writes:My boyfriend still talks to his ex. It bothers me and i confronted him, but he says that it is not what it seems. He says that their relationship is over. But, they talk and exchange txt messages constantly, and it makes me wonder: what could they be possible talking to each other almost everyday. I had confronted him about this ex issue before but he has not change or stop calling her. What should I do? I take it very disrespectfull on his part b/c if it was me I would completely stop talking to my ex if it bothers him. It is very annoying and it is getting into my nervers.Should I take his behavior as an offense since i have I asked him several times to stop, but he doessn't?I think u should know that we are in a long distance relationship...
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reader, sexi  +, writes (6 November 2007):
 Hi
Long distance relationship are difficult to maintain. I would like to know how do you know that they are in contact? You should probably tell your bf that you are reconsidering yourlls relatioship due to his contact with his ex. I personally would not like it if my bf was chatting to his ex. They are called ex for a reason they belong in the past and that is where they should stay. If your bf cant make you happy by stopping their contact then you should reconsider yourlls relationship.
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reader, Jovial +, writes (6 November 2007):
 Hi
If you are in a long distance relationship then how do you know about this constant messaging between them? Dont get me wrong I understand the dilema you are in if u can allow me to say that. But this people might be friends in some way u can not understand and making a fuss about might break you apart.
where is the girl is she closer to him than you are? Whats his excuse to all this? Are they busy chatting at your presence? Is he focussed on their friendship than his relationship with you? Does he drop everything whenever she calls? Assess the kind of attention he gives not just he response to her calls or texts.
Ask your bf why is he keeping in contact with her, get to understand this, so that if he is edgy about it u will know something not pretty is going on.
I am in contact with one of my exes because for some reasons I dont know I find him easy to talk to he has a way of calming me down because he listens to reason before jumping into conclusions like my bf does. and i dont take advantage of that and confide in him in everything that goes wrong or right in my life we have boundries he respects my bf and the same goes for me and our partners have come to understand that there is no threat. infact sometimes it comes handy for my bf sometimes when im just being difficult he confides in my ex so he has also found a friend in a way.
Find out why they broke-up so that it is easy for you to detect some unhealty co-dependency in there. This is easier said than done, an interfering ex makes your life difficult and if your partner entertains it its double the pain. But dont overeact without assessing the situation so that u dont loose a good thing because of a jealous ex. becareful how you deal with this.
Jovial
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reader, carolyne  +, writes (6 November 2007):
Dear am sorry for what you are going through i have beeen there and i know how it feels i think your boyfriend cares less aboput you and am sorry to say so coz if he did he should know that what he does its affecting you and even your relationship and its not healthy.at this point of your relationship he should be concentrating in bulding what both of you share instead of paying antention to his past so if he cant let go then its ovious he is still in love with his ex and may be you should be thinking of calling it a quit and focus on your life without him and your true love will come at its own time am sorry again but be strong its a life experience how you handle it matters.All the best.
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