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anonymous
writes:Hey guys,I'm 18, currently a new uni student. A couple of weeks ago (at uni orientation week), I met this guy on a bus (with another friend of mine) back from town, who also lived on campus. We all talked quite a bit on the trip back and decided to all go swimming, and then head back to his place to play Kings Cup, where I got too tipsy and he carried me back to my room and took care of me. A week or two later, we decided to go out clubbing, hooked up, and he carried me all over the place when my feet cramped up and held my shoes. We just went back to his room again after with a few other friends for a movie, but it was nothing more than making out. Just last week, we had sex - both of us for the first time and since then, he's been texting or calling if he could come over - in short notice. Normally at 12 or 1am, when we're both bored. He stays the night, (or I stay the night, he walks me home in the morning), cuddles and hugs til I fall asleep, we talk about a lot of childhood memories, life stories..etc. A few days after, he said: What do you think about us? ANd said he wasn't looking for a relationship. Then the next day, he said he was ready to take it further, once I figured out how I felt. And then two days after, he said 'just chill, we're fine the way we are now'. I told him how I felt recently, but he didn't say a thing, just held me tighter.I don't know what he wants...Thanks
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (14 March 2012):
 As the other answers have said; he is confused and doesnt know what he wants. He likes you, but part of him wants to be single so that will be why he treats you like a FWB at times.
You are new at college so it is going to be hard for anyone to committ at this stage, everything is new and exciting and there are loads of guys and girls to meet, so being single is normally a good idea when you first start college.
So I guess it is up to you - are you happy to have a casual relationship and see how it goes? Or do you want a committed relationship? You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel, explain what you want and what you would not be happy with etc. If you are happy for it to carry on like it is but you wouldnt want to carry on if he was having sex with other girls (which is sensible because of STDs) then explain that to him - say you are fine for it to carry on like it is but you would prefer it if neither of you had sex with any other people, and if the situation arose where sex with someone else happened, then you would terminate your relationship.
That way you keep things casual, but protect yourself from STDs too and make it clear to him that casual is fine but sex with other people is not.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2012): Agreed he's confused too you'll have to try and be patient. Maybe not sleep with himfor awhile too
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reader, Ldu  +, writes (14 March 2012):
its sounds like he is also confused . He Probly Donsnt know whether to commit or explore the college single life . He might still want just a FWB situation .
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