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writes:Hi agony aunts. So I'll be 17 soon and am not yet sexually active. Problem is my hormones have been driving me crazy since I turned 11/12 (when I hit puberty). That is the time when I started masturbating (please don't tell me its a sin or anything like that). So anyway my hormones have gone into triple over tie this past year or two where I have to do something to take some edge off of my hormones everyday. Not necessary always masturbating to orgasm, but just to get some temporary pleasure. This has made it easier for me to remain a virgin. Is this normal though? For example after a long stressful day I just have to get off a little to relax myself. I wouldn't say I'm addicted because I dont orgasm everyday. Sometimes I'm just not in the mood for that and just want to pleasure myself. Am i weird or is this somewhat normal for my age?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 June 2016):
 When I was your age it was at least twice a day for me to wake up and then to go to sleep. sometimes even more in between.
you are perfectly normal.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (20 June 2016):
 I agree with avoiding porn for now; you're at an impressionable age and it's unhealthy to watch, at the moment.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 June 2016):
 It's totally normal. Being a "virgin" doesn't mean you won't have urges or surges of hormones.
If it helps you? Go for it. I would just hold off on adding porn to the picture. I think it can give a inexperienced person a total skewered view of sex and intimacy.
IF you feel like you do it too often, try Yoga. It's actually very beneficial on several levels. But in general? There is nothing wrong with you.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (18 June 2016):
Rest assure, you are completely normal. You have matured to the point where your body is ready for sex even if you aren’t. That’s why your hormones are like this, and in your teenage years they can be particularly intense. This happens to boys and girls. It’s much better that you take care of your needs yourself as much as you need to, rather than have sex when you’re not ready or with the wrong person.
Masturbation is no sin. Sin is, in my opinion, that which does harm to another person. Telling people they’re doing something wrong because they touch their own body is sinful. Your choice to masturbate or not makes absolutely no difference to anyone else’s life, and it’s not wrong to feel pleasure. And don’t assume that people only masturbate because they feel it’s necessary; people masturbate because it feels good and they want to. To want to release some tension, have some fun and feel pleasure after a long, stressful day is also completely normal. Some people do it just to feel relaxed, to make it easier to go to sleep. The golden rule is this: if your need to do something is so strong that it affects daily life, it’s a problem. If it doesn’t, then it quite simply isn’t a problem.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (18 June 2016):
Very few people on here would say masturbation is a sin, so no worries there.
At any age (particularly 14+), it's very normal to masturbate everyday, once a week, once a month or never. The only time it becomes an issue is when you do it multiple times a day, get sore and/or it interferes with your life.
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