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writes:okay well my girlfrind got a random text last night saying, hiya gourgous its spencer, i see the text come up but she said to me that she doesnt know who it is, it was playing with my head, i heard the name spencer a couple of days earler, thats when it hit me check on facebook so i did and my gf was a mutural friend and had just accepted a fried request, now i dont know what to do she asked me to leave it when i didnt know who it was and trust her, now things are telling me different i have his number from his profile infomation but what to do i have no idea
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reader, Cccc  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 Sit tight! This could be a bumpy ride but whatever you do just know its not the end.And having a fight with her about it would probably be bad news for you.For some reason I did the same with another girl while I was in a relationship...needles to say it just down rite stupid and disrespectful BUT Id say you have some affection to show man!Usually people will reach out to others when they're lacking something in the relationship.Give your girl some of your time again but don't bombard her all the sudden just take it slowly and bring it back and keep it.
I made the mistake of taking all the small things for granted and it ended up the same as yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): First, you need to take a couple deep breaths because on the surface this really isn't anything to worry about.
It sounds like you and your girlfriend have some serious trust issues. If there's anything that's going to break you two up, it's that, not some random guy texting her calling her gorgeous.
My advice is that you just be honest with her and tell her how you feel. Tell her that you really care about her and that you can't help but be concerned when other guys hit on her. Address the situation, and if she says that she really doesn't even know the guy, then just drop it. If you feel in your gut that she's trying to hide something, then perhaps you've got more on your plate. But be warned; there is nothing worse than an "over-protective, controlling" boyfriend. Don't be that guy.
Personally, it doesn't seem to me that there's anything going on with your girlfriend and this guy, but just use your best judgment.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 Ok well dont contact him under any circumstances as this will only cause a lot of trouble for everyone.
Ok so it does sound suspicious that your girlfriend lied to you that she didnt know him when she did. So the only thing you can really do here now is sit down and ask her to be honest with you.
Tell her you dont want to be the kind of boyfriend that is controlling or jelous but that you need to know why she lied to you about this guy as its affecting your trust in her and you deserve to know the truth. ask her how she knows this man and if there is anything else you should know.
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