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writes:ive been seeing a guy for a few weeks and things were going great, until of course his last girlfriend came along and told him she wants to give them another go! he has told me he is confused about how he feels and until he decides what he wants its not fair to carry on seeing me, this is fair enough but he is older and than me and she is older than him again, i feel i have no chance with him. what do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u all for ur help, its all really helpfull. i just dont wanna loose him as its one of the best things thats ever happened to me. i just hope im not the one to get hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2007): you do stand a chance. any smart guy will know that hes likely to get hurt again by the ex - assuming his ex ditched him rather than him ditching her. He'll want to be with someone who he feels secure with, not with someone who he'll be worried will leave him again. And that someone could easily be you. I understand him breaking it off for now as he naturally still has feelings for her at the same time as having feelings for you. Hopefully he'll make the right decision.
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reader, kenny +, writes (17 May 2007):
 He has obviously got mixed feelings, he likes you, and has also still got feelings for his ex also. At least he did the right thing and told you its not fair to keep seeing you until he decides how he feels, that goes along way. I would be inclined to give him some space to let him think about what he really wants. Don't pressure him and keep asking him if he has made up his mind yet, be cool and let him be the one to contact you when/if he is ready.
Good luck x
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reader, LenaTobery  +, writes (17 May 2007):
 my thing is women are just like men in a way..... like they break up then whoever they moved on with messed over on them the way they messed over on the last person and they don't like it. so they always try to go back with the last person for thier own redemption because they always need someone there ....hun there should not have been no contact between the two when he moved on with u.... but if he's smart he'll see that she's just trying to use him as an object of self pitty and say good bye to her and hello to u. be there 4 him,make ur mark,let him see that u care about him as a person......good luck hun!
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