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writes: My bf and I don't seem to be on the same page anymore. He has told his brother, sister, and friends what he was doing for me and it was a surprise. Here's the thing he has been so busy that in a month he has been to 4 states already. I got upset because I seldom heard from or saw him and when I let on to his sister or brother how I felt about it, they got mad and said he was doing all of it for me. Of course I didn't know this. Finally, I told my bf how I felt and asked him if he really wanted this relationship. He said yes he loves me and things will get better and they haven't. Lately, all we do is txt because he works so much. Just the other night he said he couldn't believe things I've said about and we need to really talk about it. I haven't heard from him in 3 days and yet to talk. I am worried. What happened and what did he want to talk about? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2006): Hi, I finally had a talk with him. He said that he was going through alot right now that's why he had been so distant. He still assured me he wanted me in his life, but I am just not sure what he wants from me while he's going through his changes. I let him know that I want to be there for him and understand but, how can I get him to understand he needs to be there for me too? A relationship to me with no equality in every aspect is as good as a home with no key. Help?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2006): Hi, Thanks for the advise. I will definitely call and let him know things. He texted me today to tell me he had been on thin ice at work so, he was trying to make up for it. Looks like it's not just my buttons he pushed. Anyway, he said he was a little mad but, things will be ok and we will talk. Oh, today is my bday too. So, he said, happy bday baby. Anyway, I feel positive he is home and not out of town so to speak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2006): Call him (DON'T TEXT - it's not as personal). Tell him that you really need to talk about the relationship because of all of the stress your going through with his not being here. (It sounds like a better surprise than the one that he's planning would be for him to surprise you by coming home for some together time!) If he doesn't have time to even *talk* about the relationship, then I'd suggest you really take a look at how much time he'll have to actually *be* there for you in the future - something else you should also bring up. Relationships are a lot of hard work, and you shouldn't be the only one trying so hard to keep it together, even if he's busy planning a surprise for you.
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