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writes:i split up from my ex boyfriend in october and i feel that he takes advantage of me because he knew i would do anything for him.i still have very strong feelings for this person and when ever i see him i fall in love again. however, i feel that he takes advantage of me bacause on christmas he rang me and told me to meet up with him and i did (even though i had not spoke to him since we broke up) its now april and i still feel the same about him and i feel that if he rang me up and told me to go and meet up with him i would drop everything and go and see him and its really starting to annoy me but i cant help it. i really need advice on how to get over him , thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): i am in exact same situation, it is so hard hun, but we can get through it, i know what i need to do it is just putting in in practise, its so hard when you love someone, but you have got to let them go, and implement the no contact rule x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): Recognize exactly what it is that makes you happy and makes you unhappy. Does being with him make you happy? That's pretty obvious. Being willing to drop everything to be with him doesn't make you a weak person. It just means he makes you happy, and humans cannot help but seek happiness. So what is it that makes you unhappy? Maybe he doesn't call you the next day or something? If so, he has somehow determined that calling you the next day is not conducive to HIS OWN happiness. You must recognize that he will never sacrifice his own happiness for yours, and therefore never put yourself in a position where your happiness depends on actions he is unlikely to take.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks , ill try x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 April 2010):
Cut all contact, delete his number and always put the phone down when you hear from him. You can get over him any time you really want to. But you're not doing what is necessary. If you're allowing yourself to be used this way, then your own esteem must be low, so take a good look at your life and really work out what you want from it. Don't be used. You can help it, but you're choosing not to. Cut all contact, and every time he tries to talk, put the phone down, don't reply to emails.
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