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writes:I really like my boyfriend. He's great, and nice and does everything just the way I want him to. But it's starting to drive me crazy! I wish that for once he'd do something wrong or get angry or something but he hasn't! This wouldn't be a huge problem but I'm not a person who likes nice stuff. I'd rather play dirty. In a different relationship I had my bf and I had played around a bit with ropes and handcuffs etc. and I really liked it. But my current bf, despite everything won't lay a hand on me like that. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): Why? Why do some girls like drama so much!
See girls like you are the reason why most guys act like douchbags because they think acting like an asshole makes them more interesting. Me and my girlfriends are sick of it, sick of guys like that and sick of games that they play!!
After dating 3 guys like that, I finally found a very passionate guy who's extremely nice to me, never fights with me. We both hate drama. And he's very passionate in bed, loves to pleasure me. My dream guy!!
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reader, Mercury4691 +, writes (19 February 2010):
I can relate because when I first started dating my current boyfriend I wanted him to be a little rougher in bed as well. First off, you need to feel comfortable sexually with each other. You need to be able to tell him how you feel without making things awkward for the both of you.
He might be afraid to be rough with you because he has never been with a woman in that way. He definitely wants to please you but may feel completely lost in that department so he's refusing to do anything "kinky" all together. What helped me out considerably was when I was having sex or being sexual with my boyfriend, I always complimented him on how well he was pleasing me and how much pleasure he gives my body. This kinda boosted his ego and within time he became more confident in bed and was more open to ideas to please me more. He eventually admitted to me that his ex was cruel to him and it killed his confidence and even his sex drive to a certain extent. My advice is to shower your man with compliments and tell him you even fantasize about him being a little rough with your body. Hopefully this works... it worked for me and my man is absolutely amazing in bed and he is up for anything I suggest.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 February 2010):
Your poor boyfriend has just become the walking cliche. He's done it all, and it's still wrong. I do understand where you're coming from though, because my girlfriend said that though she loved be being nice and really appreciated all those little things and didn't want me to change them, she did wish that I'd be a bit bossier in the bedroom at times. So I tried it, and now she's very happy :). I think maybe your best bet is to try introducing him to things yourself. Instead of asking, put handcuffs on yourself, or tie him up. Sometimes men need a little guidance. So give him that guidance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): Let me get this straight, you are not happy because your boyfriend does everything the way you want him too? Oh boy no wonder men think women are hard to please!
In the same post you are saying you like to play dirty and he doesn't so really he isn't doing everything the way you want him to.
If he is driving you crazy now this isn't gong to change. I think you should let him go and find a boyfriend that suits you better.
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reader, Princess D.  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Gee girl what's wrong with you!!!!! Many women out there wish their boyfriends were like you and now that u have something good you can't appreciate it. Wow you women do surprise me boy!!!! Al I could say is leave him so some other women can love him and appreciate him.I mean we all have out taste so u need to let him be maybe I can hook him up with my friend.
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