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*tassh
writes:My ex from about 4 -5 years ago and i have been texting quite a bit - even though his gf doesn't allow him to have any communication with any girls that arent family, on friday we met up just to say hi. We've both realised we still have feelings for each other we both have little girls so that makes things even more complicated.. He's told me today he wants to be with me and seriously is thinking of leaving his gf of 2 and a bit years. Most of my friends are friends with her. I really don't want her to get hurt but its not my decison it's hisany advice on what i should do please???
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reader, btassh +, writes (6 May 2010):
btassh is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHim and i haven't done anything intimate - not even flirting. He's been told i wouldn't get back together with him until a resonable amount of time has passed in respect to the gf.
I don't have children with him. Him and his gf have a little girl and i have my own little girl.
We broke up because i moved away.
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reader, raiders  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 Think on the reason you two broke up but if you can surpass that I don't see why you can't start over, I know this is not politically correct, but you do have daughters with him and if you two have a chance in working things out than I say go for it.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 May 2010):
You're feeling like a bad guy, because you know that if he lives her for you, people, are going to look at you and lay the blame at your door. As it is, I don't think this guy is trustworthy anyway, so I'm not sure whether you should really have anything to do with him.
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reader, btassh +, writes (5 May 2010):
btassh is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe didn't say it was to be with me. He said hanging out made him realise that there really isnt anything between them anymore. However he said if things did happen between us once they were over he wouldnt mind this.
I've told him that if he's happy don't change the situation and not to leave her for me, if he wants to leave it needs to be of his accord...yet i still feel like the bad guy
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 May 2010):
Don't try to put all the blame and guilt on him. Yes, it might be his decision, but you're the one who is aiding that decision. And you will be the one who will look bad, whether you like it or not, because you'll be seen a the one whole stole him, in the same way that a guy would look bad if he took another man's girlfriend. She will get hurt, whatever happens. And there will be a certain amount of people who won't like you for it. But that's the price. So make your own decision. If you want this guy, then take him once he has left his girlfriend. If you don't want her to get hurt, then end it now. Your choice.
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reader, single gal  +, writes (5 May 2010):
1st thing you should ask yourself, is why did you break up in the 1st place. and are you really going to live with yourself knowing you broke up a couple.
are you sure he s just not trying to find an excuse to break up with her?
whether he leaves or doesnt partly falls on you, he wont leave unless he knows you are ready to take him back
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 It may not be your decision but you are an accomplice to that decision.
If you did not give him a chance, he would not leave her for you.
If you don't her to be hurt, you should stop all communications with him.
The choice is yours.
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reader, stacy ochuko  +, writes (5 May 2010):
although someone is going to get hurt i think you should let faith take its place.i know you still have feelings for him.don't do anything
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