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writes:Here is my story,For the past two years, I went on a mission trip with my church for a week. I got to know and see the good in people but there is someone special that I met. Last year, we started to get to know one another but this year, we hit it off and he is honestly like the brother that I wished I had. He has touched my life in a way that I never felt before. I love him like how a brother loves his brother.( I only have sisters so I never knew what brotherly live is.). He does not know that I have this feeling for him and we are going to a soccer game next week and I thought about telling him. Should I or should I not? If so, how do I make sure that it is not awkward? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHere is an update,
So I hung out with my friend and after we were done for the night, I told him everything. He said he felt the same way about me! He also said that he has called a few close friends "brothers" too but most of them flaked on him but I was the first person to say it to him. This makes me feel so importrant now. Thank you all for your responses!!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (22 July 2016):
 "You're alright, you know that? You're like the brother I never had, haha" - make it light, not long. Don't throw in the word "love" and don't elongate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2016): As long as he understands the context in-which you are expressing your feelings. Your feelings may be misunderstood, and taken in the wrong way. Keep it short and too the point. Just let him know you've enjoyed his company and now you know what it feels like to have a brother; considering you have all sisters.
Less said, the better. You don't want it misinterpreted as anything else. Too much sentiment may sound...excuse the expression...gay. I'm a gay man, so I know when speaking man to man you have to make sure your buddy knows exactly where you're coming from. Growing-up around girls you know how to express your sensitivities. A lot of guys don't quite understand it when you can say what you really feel.
Let him know you think he's cool, and he's been a great buddy. As you get to know each other better, he'll understand more about your personality; and he will interpret your expressions of brotherly-love correctly. Based on your actions, as well as your words.
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reader, singinbluebird +, writes (21 July 2016):
 Dont be ashame to express how you feel, guy or girl it doesnt matter. Tell him how you feel but also dont forget to SHOW him your feelings. Feelings are so important and they have to be express for us to live truly amazing, full-filling lives, just like your church mission trip is your dedication and love for god, its also a form of expression (Im not religious at all but I can see that clearly)When you see him again, just have the time of your life. Laugh, engage, be assertive, be yourself, have fun, enjoy and live deeply. Then before the day ends or when you depart just say briefly and look into his eyes and say what youve said to us just now. 'Hey (name) just wanted to say Last year when we met I honestly didnt know Id meet someone as cool as you. Youve changed my life so many ways, and Im proud to call you my brother (name)' And smile and hug or high five. State it proudly, confidently, and just be you. He will touched Im sure. Good luck =)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 July 2016):
 Sometimes it can be awkward when guys talk about there feelings at your age. If you feel you are close then that is great, it is nice to have a strong bond with someone. If you fear that it will be awkward then you don't really need to tell him, I am sure he knows from your actions that you think off him as a really good friend. If you feel you need to say something then just keep it casual and say to him he is a really good friend and like the brother you never had.
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