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writes:Dear Cupid,If a couple is supposed to or better yet, if a couple SHOULD keep whatever happens between them, wouldn't that include not chatting about your problems to other people on Facebook? Yesterday, me and my boyfriend had several pretty small run-ins, but they weren't even arguments. But they were just slight disagreements! So tell me how come a girl he just added to his Facebook friends list, he decides to tell her all about me being upset and the fact that I was crying, how he always assumes I pretend to cry etc! He even would tell her about every time I got out of bed last night, when I was coming to the bathroom... he thought I was trying to see his chat conversation with her! And I did notice, every time i would head to the bathroom he would (minimize) or better yet, hide the chat window! And when he was chatting with her, it was late... so I asked him twice was he coming to bed. His reply "not right now"! That was because he was chatting about me! Now, I dont think this is FAIR at all, how he can me look like such the "bad guy" to someone he doesn't even know... and then he even told his cousin about our yesterday's spit/spats. Her reply "she'll get over it"! I dont think none of this is fair... especially him broadcasting our business in a chat. What do you think? Does this seem like suspicious activity?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2011): I think you should have a chat with him about his facebook/email activities. Relationships are private and while he may have one or two people he confides in , it shouldnt be to everyone. I also wouldnt like if my boyfriend was chatting to some girl and didnt come to bed with me. Id be telling him to sleep in the spare room. Hes outwardly giving out about you to strangers and then telling you about it or pretty much telling you by leaving facebook open. Stop hurting yourself and ignore him for awhile. He'll soon get the message. And when he does..and he comes to talk to you..have your arguments prepared. You deserve better than this..so demand it from him. If you dont get what you want from the relationship, then dump him. Its about small things now but what happens when he tells them stuff about money or health problems etc in years to come.
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reader, LuvLost +, writes (11 July 2011):
I am going through the same thing with my boyfriend. This has caused several arguments in my household b/c of it. He always chats with girls on facebook and when I come in the room he logs off or minimizes the screen. I confronted him about this one girl he always chats with and he said they were just friends. So I asked to see his conversation and he told me that he couldn't b/c what they talk about is private and he didn't want to tell her business!!! I'm like wtf. I tell him everything and now he's trying to protect her. My boyfriend used to also call my friends when we would argue and tell them our business too. That's why I plan on us going our separate ways as soon as this lease is up! You should be very suspicious of your boyfriend's activities. If you are both in a relationship that is fair and honest then he wouldn't have anything to hide. There's something called women's intuition. If you get the gut feeling that he's defacing your character and talking about your business then most likely he is. He also seems a bit immature because no real man would stoop that low and air out his own dirty laundry. I say talk to him about how you feel. If he's not willing to stop his gossiping ways then let him go girl.
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reader, van1llabeeen87 +, writes (11 July 2011):
 hmmm...chatting to a random girl he met online trying to make you look bad.....this is a red flag! minimizing the chat window so that you can't see--another red flag!! this sounds like the behavior of a cheater or someone who is planning on cheating-watch him! I don't want to outright call your guy a cheater but this situation doesn't sound good at all. Ask him how he would like it if you met some guy online and started talking to him about all of your guy's problems and hiding the chats from him? Also, your arguments with him are none of his cousins' business. How long have you been with this guy and how serious are you about him? You sure you want to spend the rest of your life with someone like this? He sounds a bit untrustworthy.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (11 July 2011):
 He shouldn't have done that. Facebook is a troublemaker!
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