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writes:Dear Cupid I've been good friends with this guy for almost two years already. We got really close the past 6 months because he was having problems with his girlfriend (cheating on him) and wanted someone there for him. These past six months i developed feelings for him. I slept over his house one night and we had sex. He then confessed that he liked me from the beginning of the friendship but at that time he had a gf. He also stated that he didn't want to hurt me or play me. That he cares for me and doesn't want me out of his life.( he was still with his gf at that time). I broke ties with him for about one month now because he still had a gf and we were sleeping with eachother. During this month he continued to text me on how much he misses me and how he wants to preserve the frienship. I recently got back with him and found out that he broke up with his gf. I told him i would have trouble trusting him. he reponded "take it easy", "we should date first and then go into a relationship". " we only know eachother as friends right now", we got into a fight that night. I went home and called him back crying and telling him why its hard for me to trust people bc of my past and how he slept with me when he was with his gf. he then drove to my house to see me. I'm very confused. what does he mean?
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reader, xapathyxrebornx  +, writes (18 March 2008):
 He means to slow things downa dn relax and take it a day at a time cause it seems he doesn't want to hurt you.
So hu take things a day at a time, build the trust and give it time =] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): Well, it seems he feels that you are justified in not trusting him because he cheated on his girlfriend with you...and now that these deeper feelings are out, or these lustful feelings are acted upon, your friendship is going into the dumper....this is the risk you take when you have sex with a friend.
However, it seems he is either interested in preserving the friendship and he truly doesn't want to hurt you or play you, but is thinking that you all need to go out on some dates first without the sex and try to take your friendship to the next level.
Can't tell you what to do here, but I don't think you need to really fight about it. Talk to him and figure out what you want to do from here.
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