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writes:Hi I've been dating this guy for over a year and a half already, and apparently I'm his first girlfriend. He's only a few months older than me and he confessed first. Although we've been dating this long, we haven't gone out on many dates because of a major exam he's been taking, which most of the country takes at this age. (me among the select few who doesn't.)The problem is that apart from the occasional hug, we haven't done anything; no kiss, no hand-holding; nothing! Even our dates aren't that original, only a movie or hanging at the mall. Wondering how to make this relationship move faster... should I be worried that we're a slow-moving couple?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2011): Hi I'm just responding to the feedback from two helpfuls. I posted this yesterday and came to a realisation.
Thanks for the tips, and because of more situation-specific advice, I realised that with my current boyfriend, I'm still far too shy to try much of anything daring! I still want him to kiss me, and I'll be eager when he does, but now I know that it was more my insecurities than anything else that had me moving for a more intimate relationship.
Now, anytime I feel he isn't lovey-dovey enough, I'll try out some of the tips here :)
Thanks all for the great feedback :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2011): hey sweety,you said he's a few months older to you,and your his first girlfriend.guys this age are not sexually mature yet.he's just beginning to get those hormones building up slowly in his bod..i guess by the time he's a little above 17 he should be pretty much ready to react to holding hands . feed him with romantic thoughts, after his exams try joining salsa or some sort of partner dance together,hold his hands...slowly let his feelings blossom for a girl..when he reacts affirmatively to your 'holding hands' ,playing with his fingers .continue for a few days and see ,he might automatically get more close.when he does,peck him on the cheek,and along with everything make sure your friendship also grows,talk more and do more things together thats a sign of healthy relationship around that age.when your alone / in a theatre or somewhere more secluded,lie on his chest or shoulder take his hands and see ,he will react!i'd give you one important advice ,especially with a guy who hasn't had a girl before..its very very important that he doesn't get scared away.lol.guys are less brave than they look. :) maintain your FEMININITY while taking the lead with a guy who has never explored into the world of women and any guy for that matter who is new to being physical with you!in the sense..do only things that a girl usually feels comfortable initiating,like kisses on the cheek ,holding hands ,fiddling with the fingers,kissing on the hand ,whispering in the ears,playfully hitting,lying on his shoulder ,sitting on his lap (oh thats a nice idea :) ) and you can explore many more ideas of your own !but let him take the lead to kiss your lips.wait be patient,it will happen..or i would also suggest you can take up the topic of kissing somehow.maybe start it off by gossiping about someone's latest kiss ;) or watch a movie alone with him having kissing scenes in it ;)..tempt him and drop hints (no, sometimes even guys can get hints !) you could even wonder aloud how it would feel to kiss and ask him if he's ever thought about it. the trick is often trying to get your face close to his.if all this don't make him kiss ya then i guess he's just too shy or afraid that he doesn't know how to kiss.if thats the case then one fine day just go ahead and give him a mind-blowing kiss :D ALL THE BEST SWEETHEART
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (12 November 2011):
 If you want things to move quicker maybe you need to take the lead, take hold of his hand and just see how he reacts.
If that goes well then try kissing him and see how he reacts to that, he may want to but is to shy or does not know how to start things.
If he doesnt react well then maybe you should think about moving on.
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