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writes: i really like this guy and he really likes me and we are going to go out after new years (long story) but anyways when its just the two of us hes really sweet, nice, funny, and flirty...but when were in a group of ppl (mainly his friends) he can be a total dick to me! like we went skiing today and he said sum dickish things to me...but when we were on the chair lift he was really nice, and flirty again! even in school sometimes hes really sweet even around friends but some times he says some dickish things...and he even uses me as a shield when his frinds are gonna hit him! i think some of his dickishness is because he wants to act tough, and manly...(because he really isnt) but i dont know wut to do about it...cause i really want to be with him.....but it kinda bothers me that he treats me like that around ppl!pls help!!
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reader, shamshammer +, writes (9 December 2006):
You need to be honest with this guy and let him know how you feel...there is no point in deciding to go out with him next year if he is going to treat u differently in different situations. you deserve better! if he becomes defensive when you confront him you must carefully consider if this is the type of relationship you want to enter into...on the other hand if he genuinely does not realise how he is making you feel this way (believe me boys can be pretty oblivious sometimes) he deserves another chance. Make sure this guy realises what you are worth, good luck xxx
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reader, chibijess +, writes (9 December 2006):
 You've gotta see where you stand with this lad. I think he does like you, and he's only doing those things to look big in front of his mates.
ive he truely, truely likes you he'd be able to be sweet no matter who your with. so ask him about it, cause if he can't be nice now how is he going to cope if you go out with each other?
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reader, agoodkid +, writes (9 December 2006):
I know whats going on, the problem is he has a reputation with his friends. He probably knows that it affects you but gets nervous around his friends with you, so he resorts to the kind of behavior that he was used to without you. Also one thing I must insist is NEVER insult his manliness, that will hurt him in a way u can't imagine.
Just because he asks nice and sweet around you doesn't mean he isn't manly. That just proves he knows how to be a man, he knows how to act when hes with his friends, and when hes with you. But when those two worlds collide its a different story, he needs to figure out what to do there. The main reason hes having this problem is he isn't comfortable with his masculinity, when your with him dont insult his manliness, and dont say hes immasculine around your friends OR his friends because as you know in school word travels REALLY fast.
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