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writes:I am in a sort of happy relationship now. We have had a bad up and down recently. He neglected me while i was pregnant and then whilst our baby was very young. This went on for over a year and at some point i stopped loving him. But i stayed. We fell back in love. Now he is having a depressive stage for no good reason when i do nothing but encourage and help him out in any way i can. sometimes i feel he is trying to push me away so i will leave, but the question is should i leave and finally be able to be happy again? Reply to this Question
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (23 April 2015):
If you don’t love him, you should leave. If you do, tell him how strongly you feel. Tell him you understand that Depression is hard, but that you don’t feel you can continue with him if he doesn’t try anything to sort things out. Whether he snaps out of this without the intervention of a doctor or counsellor, we won’t know, but perhaps he should see a doctor to begin with, particularly if he’s feeling unable to relate to anyone, has lost interest in things he previously enjoyed, and is feeling low. He’s got to start somewhere. Whether he’s unhappy or depressed, he has to be challenged to tell you what he’s going to do to try and make things better, and then he needs to get on with doing it.
I wish you all the very best.
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