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writes: Hi, I want to go overseas next year. How do I tell my b/f of two years, whom I live with and own two cars with? I still love him very much but I am not happy. Unfortunately I feel we are going down different roads. He is very much settled, whereas I am not. I want to travel the world and I don't know how long for. How do I tell him? What do I say and when? Reply to this Question
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (18 May 2005):
 You've said it very eloquently in just a few sentences. You need to preface that with, "Brett, it's hard for me to say this, but...I feel that we're headed down different roads..."The real obstacle is in then deciding where you go from there. Are you through with him, with the relationship over? If so, you'd better say so. Do you hope to remain friends while you're gone? Best to know that in advance too. Your boyfriend is going to want to know the whole story and to be reassured that you're not just leaving him for some South American hottie.Do be compassionate, whatever you do. Your "growing apart" wasn't wholly his fault and he's bound to be hurt by your announcement. Tell him about it as soon as you're ready to move out (that is, assuming you live together), or as soon as you can. It's no good prolonging things when you feel there's no future together.Good luck.
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