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writes:dear cupidive been dating my boyfriend for 6 months already thats half a year. we really know each other. i really love him and he has shown me alot // he shows me he cares and that he loves me.were both virgins. iam 16 and he will be turning 17 in a couple of months.when were together we kiss,, {allover}we have talked about sex. since were both virgins he tells me hes ready for anything. he even told me hes ready to get married with me..(:sometimes we touch each other not alot [barley]he likes me to do it to him but i dont feel real comfortable so i tell hime to stop in a nice wayi think i should wait till mariage and i told him but his response was ur already like my wife i love you and we will get married so iam ready for anythinghe likes it when i sit on top of him ,, when i rub his "thinggy"are we ready?iam i?should we have sex?i really love him:)thanks any advicce i will apriciate it highly
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): thats veryyyyy good and something to look for when looking for a guy. just stay true to yourself always! otherwise live well and have fun.... he sounds like a keeper to me IF he truly will wait
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u all for ur responses and advise thamks(:
i really tookk it into consideration..
looking forward to more....
but as for spinnaker....
he is the tootaly oppisite of what u said...
he is not pressuring me to do anything that i donot want to do and like samantha said he is willing to wait untill iam 82 if thats my case.. && he really respects me and my desicions...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): First things first, just because you've been together months and you "think" you love each other, doesn't mean you have to proceed to have sex. Guys are always ready to have sex. Especially in high school, where there is a ton of peer pressure. When you are ready you will know it. Don't expect the relationship to last just because you do. It will be a special time, a time you will always remember. In the meantime, only do things you are comfortable with. Touching and rubbing, kissing and caressing.
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (14 June 2010):
 NEver let anyone push you into what you don't feel totally comfortable doing. Sure he has feelings for you and you for him but "love" maybe an exaggeration at this point and it is irresponsible of him to incorporate his desire to have sex with your feelings upon marriage.
My point is that if he truely loved you he would respect your wishes rather than rationalize things away. Now mind you I am not saying he is using you it is just he needs to act more responsibly in managing what he feels and says and you need to recognise that and not encourage him along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): I feel like you're my girlfriend, posting this up here. And i feel like im your boyfriend, this describes my relationship quite well.... like, it almost scares me. except i dont think i've ever openly told my girlfriend "I am ready for sex" i mean, i think she gets the fact that i am ready, but i am more than patient, and i will wait until she is comfortable for such things. She is the love of my life. but she is turning 17, and i just turned 18.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): make sure you are entirely ready. I was in the same position as you. I am also 16 and was dating a guy for 6 months before we had sex. My boyfriend was very gentle about it and i loved it. we talked about sex and wat we would do if i got pregnant and he told me he would marry me as soon as we got old enough. but after having sex for 3 months after that my family was in a car accident and he broke up with me. I miss him lots and i still love him. BUT with that said i wish i wouldn't have given him my virginity. We were both virgins and we both loved each other but that is wat our relationship revolved around. everytime we met up we had sex and we lost a lot of wat our relationship was before we had sex. Sex added a whole nother level to our relationship and now that we aren't together i have a very hard time moving on. And if he truly loves you he would wait till our 82 to have sex if thats how long it took for you to be ready..... stay a virgin till marriage because i regret it every day you just have to make a point that you will tell him when its time. plus 6 months is just a small fraction of you life..... stay true to yourself becasue otherwise you may regret it for the rest of your life
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