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writes: Hey. This is quite lengthy but please read and try and help, I am in my late teens and dating a guy who is 7 years older than me. Before we got together I really fancied him and I let him know I was interested, just to find out he's been in 'love' with me for years. Now we're together I've seen what he's like, he's lovely but he's quite obsessed,he texts me every morning and night and emails me every hour telling me how perfect I am. It's flattering but quite creepy. Plus, even tho I know he's straight he dresses and looks very homo. It's not like I have a problem with gays but hello, I'm dating him. He talks camp too which is quite embarrassing and I really think I've made a mistake, but last time I tried to break up with him he burst into tears. I don't know how to do it without him getting dramatic, because I know he is besotted with me but I just don't feel the same way. PLEASE HELP!
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (13 April 2006):
 Do you want to be with him or not?
If not tell him it is over. If you do then you need to work on some serious judgemental issues here....*he looks like a homo?* puleeze c'mon!!!!
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reader, Beautiful_Suicide +, writes (13 April 2006):
 Is it definate that you want to break up with him?..maybe you could discuss your feelings with him..tell him you think he's being a bit too in your face the whole time and you need more space...or maybe you tell him you just need a break to figure out what you're going to do..I had a guy who was obsessed with me and it wasn't much fun but in the end I just told him I needed something that he couldn't give me and he understood in the end..I know it's cliche but just try and do what your heart tells you to do..good luck - Sass
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reader, eï? Sophie eï? +, writes (13 April 2006):
 heyIf your not happy with him, the best thing to do is call this relationship a day. I know that may sound harsh but if you don't feel the same way about him, theres no reason for you being a couple. Your not happy with his obsessing texting and emailing, and your kind of questioning his sexuallity, which ovcourse is going to worry and embarrass you sweetheart!!! Too me it sounds like hes got an insecurity and hes frightened of losing you, the reason for the emailing and texting. What i can suggest to you is, write a letter to him from your heart telling him that your unhappy, so its personal, and in the mean time he not get so dramatic and upset because thats the way you feel. I hope things do turn out ok, it seems a trick situation. x
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reader, Seratuki  +, writes (13 April 2006):
 You need to be firm with him...crying is a manipulative tactic. I can understand you not wanting to hurt him, cause a scene, ect..but you need to let him know as gently as possible, purhaps explain why you feel the way you do...
Regardles, don't be afraid to do whats right for you...
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Best of luck..
Sera
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