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writes:I'm 13 and in year 9 my boyfriends 15 and is in year 10 hes called joel, anyway weve been together for about 3 1/2 months it seems like for ever because ever since we started doing stuff it just causes arguments. it feels like im on lock down i cant even talk to his friends or any of my other friends that are boys. i had a party for my 13th and because my house is big loads of people came and i was wearing leather hot pants and a tight lepord print top with 6inch heels and loads of boys were asking for hugs and for me to grind on them so i did ? i dont know why i even did it i was just drunk and i regret it so much :( any way he got sick of me and went and shagged my bestfriend i was screaming when i walked in to them and everyone was still in my house, i just went sick and started thowing shit and him he was just screaming im sorry but i couldnt stop crying :( when he calmed me down i forgive him and he told me that it was because i was grinding on all those boys. that night we had sex,he fingered me and i sucked him off i felt so dirty when i woke up i had about 5 baths and i still felt dirty? i need to know if i should stay with him? this is so important he took advantage of me and i still love him? should i stay with him or not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2012): Please don't see this guy anymore. That is horrendous that he was shagging your best friend and then you sucked him off and let him have sex with you after?! Did he even use a condom on either of you?! You are 13 and no way ready for the risks sex brings and I'm not just talking about potentially a baby! He could have given you both STI's, heard of HIV? Well that would ruin your life. If you behave like this at 13 you could end up having a dangerously unhealthy attitude towards sex and unprotected sex carries that risk. Sex should definately be saved for someone you respect and who respects you too, and you both should want to look after yourself never, ever let a man tell you he doesn't want a condom by the way as that is a sure sign he tells other girls that.
You are not an object for a mans pleasure and again you are 13! Were your parents aware of this party? If so I don't know why they would let you dress like that but it's so not cool, it's just really upsetting you don't have to dress that way for attention wait until your older and can handle what comes wih dressing provocatively. I'm not meaning to nag at you or lecture you but there is a reason you have to be 18 to drink, because any younger and it is lethal look at the decisions you made while drunk, not good.
In the future avoid drink until you are mature enough to drink responsibly, it isn't cool and believe me you do NOT want to be remembered by people as an easy girl or for making poor choices and getting a bad reputation as it will be hard to change. Ditch the best friend she must suck for hooking up with your boyfriend but ditch him first! Seriously you can't even talk to friends no one has the right to tell you that, but look what he does with your friends?!
Please, please do not get yourself in this position again you are worth so much more! Just enjoy being young and have fun but this isn't the way, stay close to your true friends and don't rush to have a boyfriend you have sooo much time for that. One day you'll find a great guy who knows how to treat you well but for now just learn how to treat yourself with respect.
Good luck in the future, I truly hope none of this upsets you, I just really don't want you to let some scumbag guy like him ruin your youth so don't let him, be strong and you'll come out of this : ) take care xxx
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reader, Shadow Rose  +, writes (20 January 2012):
 I think you both should, at the very least, take some time off from dating, and evaulate yourselves.
You were in the wrong for wearing such provocative things (6 inch heels are not nessicary for a 13th birthday party) as well as grinding against all the boys, especially since your boyfriend was there!
He was in the wrong for sleeping with someone else when you two were in a relationship.
Also, he did not take advantage of you. You forgave him and you had sex. As a consenting minor. To another minor, I might add.
(The legal age is 16 there, right?)
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