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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Ok this may be a long one..First, let me start with background.We have been seeing each other 9 months. 6 of those he was away playing ball but he lives here. He is a nice guy, very intuitive and sweet. Raised by a single mom and definitely has respect for women. He does have a somewhat strong personality. He hasnt done anything wrong to me but there are some issues I would like to know are just me, or real issues. I would like to say I come from a bad marriage about 4 years ago and have learned there are some things you just gotta keep to yourself with a man.Ok here goes my issues...He jokes alot. I mean to the point where if I send a sexy text he will respond "ewwww, no way" trying to be funny. Yes, I have said jokingly that he can feel free to flirt back anytime he wants. He will then an hour later tell me how cute I am.We have never talked about our feelings for each other. Not Once. I knew he was my man because of an answer he gave to someone and from a text he sent..Anyways what topped it off was today I was having a whiney day. I was fired from my last job due to market and today I was just tired of being home all the time. He said "I will just call you later, you are whiney"..Which I have to say I am NEVER complainey or whiney like this. I had a moment. I guess I feel he should have understood and listened instead of dismissing me. I feel like I cannot share anything with him. He has NO idea how bad my finances are right now. I feel like with him I always have to be happy and light. I am confused as to whether or not this is me or if I am validated in this. I sometimes feel like I am with a joking brother or something. He is sooo much fun and makes me laugh so hard but I feel I am missing the connection. We have more of a connection when we have spent a few days in a row together. It almost feels like he warms up.Its almost exhausting to be with him and all the joking. even first thing in the morning he starts in. I guess I dont know how to handle this or what to do. I feel alone in my situation and I would never want to put anything off on him but by now..shouldnt we be further? Thanks for any help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnother point, right now we are hanging out..there is just something missing. Not one nice thing has come out of his mouth other than jokes.
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