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writes: My boyfriend doesn't call me or visit as much as he used to. He tells me he loves me but these days his actions makes me doubt him. He also doesn't kiss me that much anymore as well. I'm beginning to think that there might be someone else but he's promised me that he would never cheat on me. I'm starting to get ideas on maybe cheating on him with a guy I work with. Should I?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2005): What goes around, comes around! If you do not value this relationship, then go ahead. If you do, come clean and ask him. Tell him you notice the difference in his affection to you and want to know if you pleases him. Ask him on a scale of 1 - 5, 5 being highest, where you stand!Learn from lesson
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2005): i've been there and done that, cheating doesnt work! if thats the way he is, then from my experience he wont change. you have to work out what you want from ure relationship and go from there. i'm still with my boyfriend but he still isnt that affectionate, it maybe the way he is.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (11 August 2005):
Of course not! You certainly cant have any love for your boyfriend if you are considering cheating on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2005): If you think he may be cheating, then do the self-respecting thing, and simply confront him. Don't exhaust yourself trying to get back at your partner by dating others to prove a point to him only, based on a "suspicion" that he's possibly, cheating on you not to mention how selfish it is to even consider bringing a totally oblivious, innocent 3rd persom into your mess.
Revenge will only poison you. It will make you into a person you may not want to look at in the mirror, each day. You and your BF are both young and have made mistakes in your relationship. Instead of wasting your good life on hating him, find enough nobility in yourself to forgive both of you for the dumb mistakes..just tell him it's over, and move on. Walk away with your self-pride intact.
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reader, Helen05 +, writes (10 August 2005):
Please don't. Relationships are not tit for tat.
Tell him your concerns about his affection. Do not get another man involved purely to gain attention. It will not work. Your boyfriend will still be distant and you will just feel cheap.
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reader, carli +, writes (10 August 2005):
no thats silly, as a women sex is so much more to us as its someone inside us that is precious you will feel silly after. you are better off hiring a dective if you think your mans cheating. if you want to be with someone that gives you more of there time and shows you they love you there are men many out there that will give you that ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT. from experience i would say you nicely need to say that it upsets that he doesn't give you as much attension as he used, tell him how happy it makes you when he's affectionate but let him know that you want a loving commited realationship for life and you won't settle for anything less tell him to maybe take a few days of not talking or only a few hours maybe to decide weither he can 85% of the time strive to make you happy. remember he maybe going through a tough time and not letting on to you as men tend to do think they can solve all on there own, so let him know you love and are always there to listen to him or give him space and wait for him if warented. ask yourself can he make you happy because you deserve it and there will be a man out there that can give you all you want.
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