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*napdragon
writes:Hi so confused, please if anyone has advice i would really appreciate it. My husband of 19 years has always been abusive in one way or another, the worst was about 5 years ago when he hit me on a number of occasions because he couldnt handle the fact that i had a sexual relasionship with a boyfriend i had when i was 15 until the age of 18. He abused me mentaly also and stopped me from seeing my sister from our home for two years, she is allowed in now but he is very abrupt with her and creates an atmosphere and makes the situation awkward, he gets funny with me for making her a sandwich and says "why doesnt she go to her own house and eat?" although he has stopped hitting me and things are better now,we still do nothing together and he doesnt get involved with my side if the family at all.I can now see what he did to me much more clearly now that i can see the wood for the trees and im stronger, but i rescent him sooo much and have fallen out of love with him i do feel unappreciated, i am not a bad person and have alot of love to give, but i dont want to give it to him anymore he really did make my life a living hell. should i go even if things are not as bad now? i have a boy of 9 years, should i stay for him? please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, snapdragon +, writes (27 April 2009):
snapdragon is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for taking the time to answer my post, your answers were very helpful and I appreciate you taking the time to reply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): NO.
Don't stay with him. This is what happened with my parents. :/ Dad starts abusing mom, daughter steps in to help. Gets abused tooo. Mom didn't want to leave. Dad tries to kill Mom. - Breaks up.
DON'T STAY WITH HIM IF HE ABUSED YOU!
This is from i guess third person view of a primary experience. :/ From a daughters perspective. But when you tell him, don't provoke him or else he'll start abusing you. And always be cautious, call 911 if he abuses you again. Stand up for yourself. He should not get away with abusing you. These people are the lowest of the lowest.
(I'm 15.)
-Good luck. xx
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