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writes:Ok so I have been with my husband for 5 years we were 17 when we got together, a year later we had a son and got married. My problem is that he's the only person I've dated or had sex with ever! I find my self wondering wat It would be like to date around have fun just play the feld. Well my husband knows all this and said that if I just need to get away and see wat else is out there he will let me go and if I find out its not all that its cracked up to be he will be here waiting for me, But I not no what to do I'm sooo confused Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2013): Thank you everyone for all the advice it has really opened my eyes. It was what I needed to hear. Thank you thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2013): I will say that I was in the same situation as you but my husband was not so understanding. So, I had an extramarital affair. It was the worst mistake of my life. My husband to this day does not know about it and I will NEVER tell him. It was not all that it was supposed too be. Sure the initial attraction was wonderful but honestly you and I are inexperienced to deal with the emotions of dating or dealing with other men. We just don't have the emotional capacity to deal with it because we have had such a limited exposure to other men.I also think that your husband will not be able to handle the repercussions of your actions if you do follow through and it will just be the beginning of the end for your marriage and family.Please do not make the same emotional mistake that I did.
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reader, anonymus2012  +, writes (2 September 2013):
omg, aunty babbit said it all. i totally agree. be careful with what you wish. you may not like it.
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (2 September 2013):
 Hi,What an amazingly understanding husband you have.How would you feel if your husband said the same thing to you? Would you be ok about letting him play the field, would you wait for him and take him back if it didn't work out?I think this is a case of the grass is always greener on the other side. I bet that if you left and had a string of one night stands or affairs you'd soon be yearning for the stability of your marriage and the comfort of having sex with someone who really knows you and has shared some life experience with you.In other words you'd want exactly what you have right now. Secondly (and probably the most important aspect here) what about your little boy? How will this effect him? because I assume you would be planning on leaving him with his daddy whilst you're playing away as you could hardly take him with you.Thirdly, why did you get married? You promised to love each other and be faithful to each other till death do you part, not until you get bored.I don't mean to be hard but this is what can happen when you have babies young and then marry young.You can't turn back the clock but you can shape your future.Find a worthwhile fulfilling career or destiny for yourself and your family and make that your dream. Inject some romance and fun back into your marriage (especially in the bedroom).If this isn't the answer then think long and hard about the choice you make because there is no undo button. You might just lose everything and then wake up and realise everything you dream of you already had.Good luck AB x
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