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*ceneXaddicted
writes:I met my boyfriend in a weird way. Our "at the times" cheated with each other. Him and I ended up bonding over broken hearts. He is my best friend and has always been there for me. He makes me smile and my every day. The only issue is, I lived in Michigan, and he lived in Vermont. We stared dating, and 3 months later he purchased a ticket for me to fly to live with him. I am 18 years old. So we have been living together for 3 weeks Saturday, and things are tough. He isn't really touchey-feeley and affectionate. I tried talking to him about it, and he says that he just doesn't like to. Now he is saying that he loves me, but things just aren't "Right". Worst part, I am not even sure what isn't right because he says rather A) its hard to talk to me because I cry or B) He doesn't know what to say. I need advice on how to get him to talk to me. Also, maybe some way to bring us closer... I love him with my all, and I am destined to make this work.
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reader, SceneXaddicted +, writes (4 July 2009):
SceneXaddicted is verified as being by the original poster of the question He is 23, I am 18.
We have known each other for about a year,
but have only been dating for 4 months.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (3 July 2009):
 They say we train people how to treat us. Your b/f is young enough to develop good habits where women are concerned so start him in right now. Some men are naturally touchy-feely, some are not, but can be taught. He's not old enough to have alot of emotional baggage from previous relationships/marriages so he just needs to understand what's important to you. And you to him. This is a great opportunity for both of you to mold to one another until things click. Keep communication open and as long as he's receptive to your feelings, there's hope. Once a man gets older and has been in and out of too many relationships, his ideals are formed and sometimes damaged. You have the benefit of youth on your side! xoxo
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reader, softballgirl334 +, writes (3 July 2009):
 Bring up things you both like. Talk about them, go on dates where all you do is talk. If you figure out what he likes then you can see what you both have in commen.
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