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writes:Hi, I met a guy (manager) of different dept. a few months ago. We became good friends. I told him about some tragedies that happened in my life. He was sympathetic and I started having feelings for him. He is married and has 2 sons. I guess he felt that I was vulnerable and emotionally weak. The next time he visited me he started consoling over my past. Then when it was time to leave, he just gave me a hug. But then that hug continued to be something else. He started kissing me. We did not have sex, though. He came home twice after that. And the same thing repeated. But now I feel that, he is avoiding me. Men in the office call him a flirt because, they see him only with girls. He is avoiding me in the office as well. I recently me a guy (unmarried) in the office who is very much interested in me. He just knows that I am that manager's friend. But he does not know that we had a brief relationship. He hates him a lot. Please tell me how do I get over the rejection that I am facing from the guy who had a relationship with me. I just can't get over it. And should I tell this new guy about the relationship I have had?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012): There shouldn't b any confusion at all. The manager is MARRIED! There is no future w/him PERIOD! If a SINGLE guy likes u go for it! Y are u so concerned about what ur married manager thinks or feels. Go and enjoy ur single life and date SINGLE people. For the record married people play this games all the time. Its time for single 2 wake up 2 the game and stop entertaining it. U don't owe anybody an explanation. Date the guy have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2012): My apologies wrong post :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2012): The sex is great? Its likely one of these days you'll contract a nasty infection or worse, a sexually transmitted disease from him because of the "Great sex" you have with him!
How do you know he doesn't have unprotected sex with these woman?
How do you know these women don't sleep around unprotected with other guys that sleep around unprotected?
My answer to your question is: Toughen up and develop some self respect. Get rid of the guy, and deal with the few months of heartbreak you will experience from the breakup, and stop accepting the regular and continuous heartache you receive every time he jumps into bed with another woman!
Did you come here for advice, or just to get this off your chest?
Because I'm sure you MUST know that cheating is wrong in a relationship, and also what you must do about it to put an end to this situation.
I sincerely hope you take the advice given here because if you don't, you will forever be going round in circles, and eventually no one will take your cries for help seriously.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2012): No he doesn't have to know this new guy sounds much better than a heater that your manager is like you said he's always around girls therefore he's a player
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (27 August 2012):
DONT tell the new guy, if you broke up or didnt get on etc he could spread rumours about you and make this a whole lot worse. you dont want the first guys wife on your case or everyone (wrongly) labelling you as a tart when you didnt even have sex with the first guy. be smart. there is no advantage to telling the new guy of this unfortunate incident, so move on from it and learn. good luck x
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